Helpful Parenting Tips for Enneagram Type 6 Moms: Loyalist Moms
Last month, we looked at Enneagram Type 5 — Investigator Moms. Today we are going to explore the world of Enneagram Type 6 moms. These Loyalist Moms are the skeptics of the group. Here are some ways Loyalist Moms can use their unique personalities to become the best versions of themselves.
Enneagram 6s are almost always anxious, suspicious, and responsible. They value safety and security. They fear a lack of support and guidance. Here are some helpful parenting tips for enneagram type 6 moms:
1. Accept that you are safe and secure.
“We all need somewhere where we feel safe.” – British actress Emma Thompson.
Enneagram 6s tend to fear a lack of support above all else. As a parent who is a type 6, find your safe place both emotionally and physically so that you can be your kids’ safe place while they are young. Prioritize taking care of yourself and your mental health to ensure that you can give your children the support and security they need as they grow.
2. Don’t overwhelm your kids with your fears.
“Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.” – Lebanese writer Kahlil Gibran.
As loyalists, Enneagram 6s often struggle with anxiety. Take care not to smother your kids in an effort to protect them. You won’t always be in charge of their lives. Your kids need to be able to make their own age-appropriate decisions without your fears hanging over them.
4. Trust your instincts.
“Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but foresight is better, especially when it comes to saving a life, or some pain.” – English poet and painter William Blake.
Enneagram 6s are uniquely able to anticipate problems before they happen and sometimes even prevent them. As a parent who is a 6, trust your instincts, but don’t let your fear of something going wrong control your decisions. Try to find a workable balance between wisdom and worry.
5. Learn to take healthy risks.
“We can choose courage, or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.” – Professor, author, speaker, and shame researcher, Brené Brown
Enneagram 6s tend to be very cautious, often to a fault. As a parent who is a type 6, prepare your kids for challenges, but don’t scare your children away from taking healthy risks as they grow. Step out of your comfort zone often as an example of bravery for your kids. There are so many things worth doing, even though you are afraid!
6. Teach your kids how to be present in the moment.
“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” – Dutch writer Corrie Ten Boom, whose family helped nearly 800 Jews escape the Holocaust.
Enneagram 6s value safety above all else. Realize that you cannot predict and prevent every negative outcome. It is humanly impossible and only drains you of your energy and joy. Instead of constantly worrying about your family’s future, practice gratitude for previous successes, and focus on finding contentment in the current moment with your children.
7. Show your kids how to choose courage.
“I have not ceased being fearful, but I have ceased to let fear control me.” – American novelist Erica Jong.
Enneagram 6s tend to struggle with fearing potential danger in every situation. They frequently imagine worst-case scenarios and often let their anxiety stop them from following through on big dreams, goals, and plans. Do not miss out on opportunities because of your fears. Each time you choose courage, your next decision to be brave becomes a little bit easier until, eventually, courage becomes a habit and, ultimately, a default.
Next, read about Enneagram Type 7–The Enthusiast Moms!
If you don’t know your Enneagram type yet and want to find out, it’s as easy as taking a test online here. You can read through The Enneagram Institute’s descriptions of the nine types here. There is also a free enneagram-type test available through Your Enneagram Coach here.
Debunking 6 Moms on Call Myths
Moms on Call breaks down our most commonly heard myths! Join us for the reality of Moms on Call and how it fits into your daily life!
We know that there are thousands of ways to get through this thing we call parenting. We also know that regardless of the methods you choose to raise your children, they are deeply loved. And even if you and your best friend are doing completely different things, you are both incredible parents. At Moms on Call, our goal is to make sure that you have the best information possible to make your decision about the methods that you choose to use. So today, we are debunking 6 Moms on Call myths!
“Moms on Call uses a VERY strict schedule.”
- Let’s face it; babies thrive off of routines. And what we provide in the typical day routines is a guideline, with a grace period on either end to accommodate your life. We even provide “Crazy Day” tips because we know that, in reality, things don’t always go as planned.
- The typical day routines include feeding about every 3 hours during the day for newborns and lengthening the stretches as our babies grow older. We focus on a minimum of two naps a day when you can. And strive to hit that bedtime routine whenever possible — bath, tender time, feeding, then bed.
“Moms on Call believes in babies sleeping through the night at 2 weeks of age.”
- At 2 weeks of age, once baby is past their birth weight, they can eat on-demand at night.
- The three key things that have to be in place consistently are the bedtime routine, swaddling correctly (the MOC way) for babies under 3 months of age, and using a sound machine.
- Here is how we help to guide you through getting those longer stretches of sleep each night as baby grows older. ( For the complete details, see our Online Video Courses and books. Before you know it, you and baby will both be sleeping through the night!
- 2-4 weeks: 2 feeds most nights
- 4-8 weeks: 1 feed most nights. May still have a night with 2 feeds.
- 8-10 weeks: 1 feed most nights, with an occasional sleep through the night. YAY!
- 10-12 weeks: You may start to get more through the night, more nights than not.
- At 12 weeks of age, they are sleeping through the night with occasional bumps in the road for developmental breakthroughs.
“Moms on Call is just another cry-it-out method”
- Not all crying it out is the same. When baby is under 12 weeks of age and wakes at nap or middle of the night, we encourage waiting just a few minutes before intervening. Parents get to determine what they are comfortable with. The purpose of waiting a few minutes is to make sure baby is awake and determine whether they are in need of soothing or if it is time to feed.
- Once baby is 12 weeks of age, and major transitions are happening — like getting rid of the swaddle, learning to roll over, or exploring foods — there is some crying that happens. With the MOC guidelines and key elements in place, we can get through this within a few days with confidence. Confidence from knowing that your little one is safe, loved, and ready for this new freedom.
“Moms on Call is a sleep training method”
- Moms on Call is about creating great habits that result in longer stretches of sleep. Although we are known for helping families get more sleep, we are SO much more than that.
- Not only do we cover sleeping, routines, and naps in our books and Online Video Courses, but we also go through basic newborn care — like putting diapers on, clipping nails, feeding positions, and feeding guidance, including amounts and how to start solids. Once we grow out of the infant phase, then we walk you all the way through toddlerhood. We help you understand how your toddler is uniquely and beautifully designed and teach you how to communicate with them effectively.
“Moms on Call isn’t “breastfeeding” friendly”
- At MOC, we support all types of feeding with the same goal in mind, ensuring little ones are healthy and gaining weight properly. We always encourage nursing moms to reach out to a lactation consultant to help navigate breastfeeding if baby has weight issues or their supply diminishes. Check out Moms on Call’s IGTV to watch Laura talk more about this!
- In fact, some of the Certified MOC consultants are also lactation consultants and can help navigate your journey if needed.
“Moms on Call is a miracle book.”
- The goal was to make our books as simple and concise as possible. However, they are not magic! It takes hard work, consistency, and understanding that some days are great, and some days we fly by the seat of our pants. Let’s be real. That’s parenting!
- We want our families to find that sweet spot of flexibility, routine, predictability, and freedom. And although we tried, some situations aren’t covered in the books. For this, we have created extensive resources that are available at your fingertips! Our Online Video Courses were designed to complement our books perfectly, and in them, we walk you through many more essentials and recap the important ones, giving the detail, examples, pep talks, and FAQs answered directly by Jennifer and Laura. Plus, new content is regularly added to the Online Video Course Library that is exclusive to members!
For personalized, one-on-one support, we have certified MOC consultants who walk with you, answering and providing a plan for your specific situation and journey.
So, although “Miracle” isn’t the word we would use, we are forever grateful to be a part of each of your parenting stories.
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What is the best pacifier for a newborn?
Most often, imagining the perfect baby, we see in our imagination a cozy baby with a pacifier in his mouth. This is natural, because the pacifier or pacifier is most directly related to the physiology of the child.
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All babies are born with a sucking reflex, which they need to get milk and also to calm down. But in order for the baby to feel safe and calm between feedings, pacifiers will come to your aid. Nowadays, parents are presented with a huge selection of baby nipples, which differ in manufacturers, size, shape and material of manufacture, therefore, in order not to make a mistake and make the right choice, we recommend that you pay attention to the following points when buying:0003
- Soother shape :
- Beveled and flattened (orthodontic) — promotes the formation of a correct bite and reduces the risk of deformation of the palate and teeth;
- Elongated and flattened (anatomical) — correctly and evenly distributes pressure on the palate;
- Round (standard or cherry) — resembles the shape of a mother’s nipple.
- Pacifier size :
- 1 or A size — for children 0-6 months;
- 2 or Size — for children 6-18 months;
- 3 or S size — for children from 18 months.
- Soother material :
- Latex nipples — soft and flexible, perfect for newborns;
- silicone nipples are strong, resilient, do not lose shape and are more durable than latex.
- Soother construction. The base of the pacifier should be wide enough so that the baby cannot swallow the pacifier, and there should be a cutout for the baby’s nose and an opening so that the baby can breathe easily. In addition, there should be a pacifier holder in the form of a ring, behind which it is convenient to take the pacifier.
When buying pacifiers for babies, you can also choose useful accessories for them, for example, pacifier holder with chain or strap , which can be attached to the child’s clothes and as a result, the pacifier will not fall or get dirty. In addition, you can purchase the pacifier case or pacifier storage box, which will protect the pacifier from dirt and damage.
Do you need a pacifier for newborns or older babies? Or maybe you are looking for an accessory for your pacifier? Then we recommend that you familiarize yourself with our range, where you will find a large selection of quality pacifiers. Here you can buy Philips Avent pacifier, which is very popular among customers due to a lot of advantages, such as: thoughtful shape of the mouthpiece, double-sidedness, lightness, etc. Also in our assortment you will find pacifiers from such well-known manufacturers as: Chicco, Tommee Tippee, Canpol, Britton, Lovi, NUK, MAM, Badabulle, BabyOno, Hevea . With such a huge selection, you will certainly find the right nipple for your child, which will help you out and help your baby every day.
Family camp for mothers with children started in the center «Inspiration» near Moscow
EventsNewsFamily camp for mothers with children started in the center «Inspiration» near Moscow
In the rehabilitation center «Vdohnovenie» near Moscow, our first outreach family camp for wards of the «Help Families in Difficult Life Situations» project began.
6 mothers with 16 children came to the camp. We have prepared an active educational and entertaining program for families. Moms will improve their parenting skills and be able to find a common language with their children. And the children, we hope, will enjoy the creative and active activities that we have prepared for them with the masters of the center.
The project is supported by the Absolut Help Charitable Foundation
Currant mustache and a plush rabbit instead of a mechanic: 35 children from regional orphanages will come to us for the summer
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