A letter to a daughter: A Letter to My Bold and Fearless Daughter
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Dearest daughter,
The day you came into this world was the day I learned that no amount of planning could have prepared me for you. You arrived two weeks early, on the Fourth of July, which was also your big brother’s third birthday. You decided 4:30 a.m. was the perfect time to wake us up and rush us to the hospital with barely minutes to spare before you made your grand entrance at 5:55 a.m. When your brother was born on July 4, I said he was my little firework. Well, my dear, you are the entire fireworks store. You exploded onto the scene and into our hearts and you haven’t looked back since.
I hope your spark never fades!
Life will put countless challenges in front of you. People will try and tell you that you aren’t good enough, smart enough, tall enough, strong enough. Friends will turn on you, grownups won’t believe in you, adversaries will do everything they can to tear you down. We live in a world where women are held to a different standard. There will be times that the qualities viewed as strength in your brother are viewed as weakness in you. You will be held to expectations that your brother will not, and he will be presented with opportunities that are withheld from you.
Through your life, you will need to navigate these societal pressures, and it will be tough. But I know you are tougher and will rise above it.
At 3 years old, you are bold, opinionated, and very particular in your taste. You know what you want and are unafraid to go after it. You know what you need and are steadfast in your desire to get exactly that. When you were a newborn, you only nursed for the amount of time you needed to get the milk you wanted. As much as I tried for those long nursing sessions filled with soft baby cuddles, you had zero interest in prolonging something that could be accomplished in 15 minutes or less. But if I didn’t nurse you the exact moment you wanted it, you certainly let me know.
It’s important to remember, though, that being strong-willed doesn’t preclude you from also embracing the observant, kind and incredibly thoughtful side of who you are.
A few weeks ago, your Gu Po Po (great aunt) was trying to reach a balloon that had floated to the ceiling. In the midst of a tantrum, you saw her need, stopped crying and raced over with a stool. You are always there with a hug and a “I love you, mama” when I’m having a tough time. And your love for your brother is unmatched.
Never lose that drive and determination, my darling. Never settle for what someone else wants you to be. Never lose your sense of self. You don’t need to prove your worth. You ARE worthy.
When they call you bossy, remind them you are confident and assertive.
When they call you picky because you have an opinion, tell them you know what you like and you will not lower your standards.
When they call you emotional, remember that empathy is at the heart of your humanity.
When they call you small, show them just how big you are with your brain, your personality and your love.
When they accuse you of having RBF and tell you to smile more, tell them you don’t owe it to anyone to smile if you don’t feel like it.
And when they tell you, “you can’t do it,” choose only to hear the words “DO IT.”
(Except when I tell you that you cannot scale the side of the stairs to the second floor. That’s for your own safety. Please stop doing that!)
The world can be a tough place for women like us… petite, Asian women who are stereotyped as being obedient, quiet and submissive. In your short three years in this world, you have proven you are anything but.
As exhausting as it is to be your mama on those days when you are determined to make your own decisions, even if they endanger your life, don’t ever change. The world needs more girls like you! Ambitious. Self-assured. Courageous. Rule-breakers. Dream-chasers.
Photo Courtesy: Erin Parrett & SmallBirds Photography
My little love, you are fearless. You are fierce. And someday very soon, you are going to change the world.
Love,
Mama
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A Letter to my Daughter
Dearest Daughter,
I’ll never forget the first time I found out I was going to be a mother.
Growing you inside me has never made me feel more complete. I’ll never forget the first time I felt you kick and the first time we picked out your name. I’ll never forget the first time I heard you cry. It was as if time stood still for just a moment as you entered the world for the first time. I’ll never forget our heartbeats synchronized the first time I held you. You were breathtaking. I’ll never forget that mama was your first word. Hearing them from your lips was music to my ears.
One day I want you to find love and happiness, but until then, I’ll never forget that I was the first person you loved, kissed, held hands with, and hugged. I’ll never forget all the times you told me that you wished you could marry me and daddy one day. And even though I know that one day I’ll have to let you go, you will always be my baby girl. In the meantime, I am going to hold you as close as I can for as long as you will let me.
I’ll never forget that I was your first best friend and your first teacher.
It has been my honor to spend so many hours of my life playing with you and it has been my privilege to teach you everything I know. I promise that I will continue to do so as long as I live. You will always be able to come to me with questions, seek advice, cry on my shoulder, and hug me as tight as you can.
And if you ask me why mommy is a little sad today, it’s because this will be the first time in your life that you’ll start making memories without me.
I am so proud you and who you have evolved into and can’t wait to be by your side as you continue to grow. But this day is different and I will never forget. I will never forget you waking up and running to my side of the bed giddy with excitement reminding me that it was the first day of school. I will never forget you climbing into bed with me and holding me tighter than usual as we both knew today was going to change everything we have ever known together. I’ll never forget helping you get ready and packing your lunch.
I’ll never forget dropping you off at school and you running off after saying goodbye without looking back. You were so brave. And I’ll never forget spending the day at home as it was a little quieter and a lot more empty. I’ll never forget how I just sat and cried to myself because I knew today was the first day of the rest of your life. You’ll never know just how deeply I missed you. Today was a new beginning for both of us.
And I have to admit that once you thought I left your school, I was there watching through a window for just a passing moment. You were playing with your new friends and practicing riding a tricycle. You were so happy. And it was at that moment that I knew you were going to be ok and I realized that this day was going to be much harder for me than it was going to be for you. I pray that today was much harder on me than for you. I never want you to suffer or be sad. And as much as I desperately want to go back in time or have your life go in slow motion and pause once in a while, today was a healthy start to live your own life, even if it’s just for a few short hours each day.
Today was a day that put life in perspective. And even though a part of me wished I could have taken you home with me, I knew I had to let go and leave you to be who you are meant to be.
You told me this week that when you grow up you want to be a dentist and I have no doubt in my mind that you will be whatever you want to be. Your dreams, hopes, goals, and aspirations are all possible and I believe in you. And although I’m happy and proud I’m raising an intelligent, capable, and independent little girl, I know it’s just a matter of time before I’m taking your picture for the senior prom, seeing you get your diploma at your college graduation and watching you say your vows at your wedding.
I’ll never forget that you made me a mother for the first time and I hope one day when you have your first child you can promise me you’ll never forget either.
Love,
Mommy
Pavel Volya wrote a touching letter to his daughter ᐈ zakon.kz
Pavel Volya wrote a touching letter to his daughter ᐈ zakon.
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Photo: Instagram/pavelvolyaofficial
On May 5, 2023, Russian pop artist, conversational genre artist, TV presenter, humorist and Comedy Club member Pavel Volya published a photo with his daughter Sophia, whom he congratulated on her birthday, Zakon.kz reports.
Under the post on Instagram, he wrote a touching letter to his daughter:
«Sofia, my little girl, but already growing up so fast. Your dad is writing this to you. When you get even older, you will surely find it somewhere on social networks, if they will be by then. I love you very much and wish you a happy birthday. Today you are eight years old! Thank you for these eight wonderful, incredible, filled with joy, years, girl.
»
» The comedian noted that with the advent of his daughter, his life changed for the better.
«I started to smile more, I started to play more, I started to have more fun. I run with you every time you run. When I come home, you always meet me and, wherever you are, you run very quickly to your thin legs, and you hug me so tightly that I can’t believe that this is real life.» Pavel Volya
Addressing his daughter, the artist emphasized that he loves it when she she is twirling in a fluffy skirt.
«It’s very interesting to watch your red sweaty mosey when you tear rackets, balls and nets on the tennis court. You are so cool, you are so cool, you are so stubborn. You are so kind, gentle, you are so honest. I never feel sorry for relatives and friends, and sometimes even for complete strangers.” Pavel Volya
He noted that his daughter has a big and open heart.
«What a joy it is to be the father of a man like you.
I am the happiest dad in the world. I wish you one thing — just be. Be healthy and laugh as loudly as only you can, and I will do everything so that you I just laughed, smiled and was happy every day. Your dad.» Pavel Volya View this post on Instagram
Posted by Pavel Volya | Pavel Volya (@pavelvolyaofficial)
In the comments, Pavel Volya wrote a postscript in which he explained that the picture for the published post was written from a photograph.
«From a photo when we were on vacation with the whole family. And I still remember this moment. We were walking from the sea, and you and your mother and Robert walked a little ahead, and I dragged heavy beach bags behind. And you we walked and talked cool. I was so happy, I walked behind and watched your pleasant conversation. And suddenly, at some point, you let go of your mother’s hand and ran very quickly to me.
I threw the bags, grabbed you, and we stood for a very long time in an embrace with you. You and I just hugged without saying a word. «Pavel Volya The comedian specified that Sophia is two years old in the photo. According to him, since then the daughter has not changed.
«The biggest heart in the world. My daughter! Happy birthday. Eight years old, Sofia! Be happy, daughter. I love you! I’m always there.» Pavel Volya
To tears!»
In March 2023, Laysan Utyasheva touchingly turned to Pavel Volya on his birthday. She posted on Instagram a video greeting for her husband, who turned 44 on March 14.
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Letter for daughter ⋆ Psychology of the third millennium
I want to tell you that you don’t have to live the way dad and I want. We have already done what we must — gave you life, gave you freedom. And how to dispose of this gift is up to you. Whether you want to enter Harvard or Moscow State University for a law degree, or maybe your heart will ask for the stage of the Bolshoi Theater — we will accept any of your choices.
I want to tell you not to be afraid to try, to look for yourself. I want you not to be afraid of failure. On the path of great people, those who have achieved worldwide fame, there were not a dozen mistakes and defeats. And only perseverance and faith in yourself and a big dream did not let them fall. And any five in the diary is not an indicator of success or intelligence. Just like the three — does not mean anything. Any failure is just an opportunity to become even better, to surpass yourself and discover new opportunities.
I want to tell you not to be afraid of disappointment and pain. All this is an invaluable experience that will help you open up, express yourself and learn to listen to your heart.
I want to tell you to learn to forgive. No matter how much dad and I would like to protect you from all troubles and misfortunes, we are not omnipotent. And there will be those who will be unfair to you. A composition professor, a new boyfriend or a school friend — people hurt us unintentionally, but only from the fact that they themselves feel it and do not cope with it. Remember that happy people are kind, polite, and generous.
Dad and I will do everything possible so that there is less pain, resentment and sadness in your heart. But a lot depends on you. Don’t be afraid to move forward, make mistakes, start all over again, quit halfway, come back and leave.
And even if you decide to hitchhike the whole world, we, of course, will grumble and give logical counterarguments, you should not betray your dream and become a comfortable, good daughter. I want to tell you to be yourself, the real you. She did not lose her childish spontaneity and that twinkle in her eyes that I see now. 
Betrayal and parting — all this will be in your life. But this in no way means that you deserve it, that you do not deserve the best and «received what you deserved.» Life is a chain of interconnected non-random events, and the pain that hurts your heart today teaches forgiveness, generosity and makes you better tomorrow. Turns your heart into a diamond. 
