Letter to my son from dad: 10 Best Sample Letters From A Father/Mother To Son

10 Best Sample Letters From A Father/Mother To Son

• Why Writing a Letter to Your Child?

• Things to Remember Before Writing a Letter

• 10 Sample Letters to Your Son

You often want to tell your son how much you love him or are proud of him or sometimes give him some advice. However, you fail to provide words to your feelings. And sometimes you do tell him, but he hears the words and forgets them in some time. One other way to express your feelings for your son is to write them in a letter to him. 

Why Writing a Letter to Your Child?

Your son will always remain a child for you irrespective of his age. And, he too behaves like a child with you, however old he becomes. Most children hardly hear what their parents are telling them. The parent’s advice, encouragements, reprimands, and even love words fly from one ear to another and then out of the kid’s ears. Kids, especially sons, are always half-listening to their parents. They are always in a hurry to meet their friends and play games or something else. Therefore, a better way to convey your feelings to your son is to do through a letter. Your son will read it with full concentration. And written words always have more impact than spoken words. Also, he can reread it whenever he wants some encouragement, misses you, or just want to reminiscence the old days. Your letter will always be a source of strength and inspiration to him wherever he is and however old he gets.  

Things to Remember Before Writing a Letter 

Writing a letter to your son is by no means an easy task. To make it more impactful few things you should know before writing a letter to your son are:

1. Simplicity Is the Key 

The simple language used to express our feelings for your son will be more impactful than flowery language. Try to write it like you usually talk or converse with your son. This will give him the impression that you are talking to him.  

2. Format 

As it is a personal letter, there is no need to follow the formatting rules. A simple letter with a salutation of “Dear Son” or his nickname and ending with an equally simple “Love, Mom/Dad” are enough and endearing. 

3. Handwritten 

A letter written by your hand will have a powerful impact on your son. He will treasure it as a keepsake. However, if handwritten is not an option, them mail or text your letter. 

4. Use Examples

Give examples of times when your son made you happy or proud. You can reminisce about those times and tell him how special those moments were. 

5. Use a Metaphor or Simile 

Spice up your letter with a few metaphors or similes. 

6. Length Doesn’t Matter

The length of your letter to your son doesn’t matter. Whether it’s long or short, only your feelings count. So write as long or short you want. 

7. Add Positive Words 

Remember to use positive words such as joy, love, happiness, enjoy, faith, trust, etc.  

8. Be honest 

Be honest with your feelings to let your son know how valuable he is to you. 

9. Write As Per His Age 

Your letter should be written considering his age to understand it. 

10 Sample Letters to Your Son

Here are some sample letters you can take inspiration from to write your letter. The letters are for different occasions, so you can choose whatever suits your need the best. 

1. Letter to Son From Mother 

Here is a sample letter to son from his mother:

Dear Son/name/nickname,

I got the best gift of my life on that rainy day in June. Your mere presence in my life makes it beautiful. I am eternally grateful to God for a sweet present.  

You are a great son and are growing up like a good man. You always follow the things we taught you, which makes us immensely proud. Cherishing our family values, loving your family, and working hard to study to excel in all that we wanted from you, and you are fulfilling them. You will face challenges in your life, but I am sure you will conquer them with the strength of your values and our love. I am always there to guide, help and support you. 

Be a great human and continue to be a great son. 

Love, 

Mom 

2. Letter to Son From Father 

Here is a sample letter to son from father:

Dear Son/Nickname,

I have always wanted to write you a letter to tell you what you mean to me. 

Son, though I may not show you how much I love you, you know I love you the most. From the day you were born, my life took a positive turn. From a carefree young man, you made me a responsible father. And due to your many achievements, I am a proud father. 

You have grown up as a strong man, capable of achieving his dreams. Your mom and I will always support you and cheer for you. 

Your Dad. 

3. Letter to Your Kindergarten Son 

Looking for a sample letter to my son in kindergarten graduation? Here is a sample for writing to your adorable son graduating from kindergarten.  

Dear son/nickname,

Today you crossed your first educational milestone. I still remember your first day of kindergarten. You were crying and not ready to enter the school. But here we are today, celebrating your graduation from kindergarten. How time flies!!!

From a scared toddler, you have come a long way. I was almost crying seeing you standing there in your graduation robe. Words are not enough to express my pride and joy. I hope for many such occasions. 

I love you, son.

Dad

4. Letter to Disrespectful Son 

At times, your son may disrespect you, but you have to guide him and show him the right way as a parent. A sample letter for such occasions. 

Dear (Nickname),

I know you don’t like us to tell you or advise you about your life. Today you shouted at your mom and me for telling you to stop wasting your time with your friends and concentrate on your studies. It broke our hearts.

We understand at your age, friends are essential, and you want to enjoy your life. But as your parents and with a lot more experience than you, we also know this is the time to focus on your studies to have a promising career. We won’t stop you from having fun times but not at the cost of your education. Your studies have to come first. 

Hope you realize your mistake and be the good son you usually are.

Love,

Dad.

5. Letter to Son From Single Mom 

Here is a sample letter to son from a single mother:

Dear (name/nickname),

You may be surprised by this letter, but I wanted to tell you my feeling and nothing I thought was better than a letter.

For years we both have been the support system of each other. Your strength and love made me strong to raise you alone. I have never thanked you for loving me unconditionally and always being there with me. 

Thank you!!!

Love,

Mom

6. Emotional Letter to Son 

Here is a sample of emotional letter to son:

Dear Son/Name/Nickname,

I know you always thought of me as a strict mother. You have always complained about not letting you free or enjoying yourself. But son, you have to understand our side too. Your father and I came from a low-income family. We had to struggle a lot to complete our education and achieve success. 

Now that you’re a father, I thought of telling you all this. As soon you will also need to do things for your kid that she may not like. But as a parent, you do what’s best for her. 

Son, don’t be as strict as we were with you. Teach your daughter discipline but also teach her to enjoy her life. Tell her to pursue her dreams and support her in achieving them. Have fun with her, laugh at her silly jokes and be a better parent than us. 

Love you,

Mom. 

7. Letter to Son on His Birthday 

There is no better gift than a letter to your son on his birthday. 

Dear Nickname/son,

Happy birthday!!!

May this day and year bring you lots and lots of happiness, joy, and success.

Son, I regret not being there with you to celebrate your birthday. But you know I couldn’t postpone my work commitment. I hope to see you soon, and then we will celebrate again. 

I am still the day you were born. Pink, soft and cute. You looked adorable in your mother’s lap. At first, I was too afraid to hold you. But then, once I took you in my arms, it was the best feeling in the world. 

You made me a proud father with your love.

Hope to see you soon. Enjoy your day!!!

Love,

Dad. 

8. Inspirational Letter to Son

Looking for a letter of encouragement to my son? Here is an inspirational letter to son sample for you:

Dear Son,

Congratulations on getting your dream job!!!

You will be starting your career now. And now, finally, you are ready to take responsibility. So I am writing this letter to tell you a few things, to become a strong man. 

Remember, in life; you always have to work hard to achieve success. No one is lucky. You had to study hard to get good grades and the job you wanted. One day, you will meet the love of your life, and you will get married. Even to have great relationships, you have to work for them. You will need to balance your life and work properly, so no one is neglected. I am sure you will do that and become a good husband and father. 

Remember, we love you and will always be proud of you.

Your dad.

9. Proud Parent Letter to Son 

Looking for a sample proud of my son’s letter? Here is a sample letter that you can use to tell your son how proud you are of him. 

Dear (Nickname),

Today we are the proudest parents. Your achieving the scholarship of such a prestigious university is not a small feat. 

We still remember you as a baby we held in our arms or the small toddler that fell after every few steps. But you, my son, have come a long way. You dream of being a scientist, and now getting his scholarship is the first step in fulfilling your dream. Words fall short of expressing our pride and love for you. 

Congratulations on your achievement, and waiting for the day when you graduate.

Love, 

Mum

10. Letter to Estranged Son 

Sometimes parents and sons are separated. To form the bond again, you are looking for a sample letter to my son to express your love. 

Dear Son,

I know it’s been a long since we last talked or met, but there has not been a day when I didn’t miss you or remember you. What happened with us was unfortunate, and the misunderstanding and the ego cost us our relationship. However, it has been years, and we should all move on from that incident. 

Your mother and I miss you a lot. Please come back and make our family whole again. 

Take care of yourself,

Love,

Dad

These sample letters will inspire you to write a heartfelt letter to your son. Just tweak them as per your feelings and needs.

Also Read:

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How to Build a Strong Father-Son Relationship

A Letter to My Son and Life Lessons for Him to Follow

My dear sweet boy,

You are such a blessing to my life and I love watching you grow! You are just now beginning to show your amazing personality and I am so proud of the young man I see you becoming. You are more perfect than I could have ever dreamed when I found out we were having a little boy. Before I started having babies, I knew I would have a son; I even had your name picked out!

Sweetheart, I wish I could change some of the harsh realities that have already happened in your young life. I wish we lived in a world where tragedy didn’t strike innocent children. But I can’t change the past and I can’t protect you from all the bad things as much as I want to. The best I can do, son, is teach you and guide you to the best of my ability. As you grow, there are a few fundamental things I want you to cling to. Use them as your guidebook, especially when life gets tough.

Spread kindness like wildfire.

Your dad was the epitome of kindness. Everywhere he went, and to everyone he met, he spread kindness and laughter. Son, you have your Daddy’s same kind heart and compassionate nature. Hold on to that, even when life gets hard. Your Daddy was so widely loved and admired because he loved and admired everyone around him. Everyone deserves kindness, baby. Don’t be afraid to show it.

Be brave and courageous.

There will be times in your life where you’d rather hide or run or bury your head in the sand than face whatever challenge is in your way. I know because I’ve been there many times. In those times, I want you to remember to be brave and show courage. But bravery and courage don’t have to come from you; in fact, it often doesn’t because we, as humans, struggle with the strong grip of fear. Often it overwhelms us. When that happens, always call on God to give you courage and be brave. He will give you the strength you need to get through the battle you’re facing.

Be respectful.

I have already begun to teach you how to respect your elders. Even as a tiny young thing, I am so proud of how polite you are. Keep that up, son. Everyone deserves respect and I expect you to show it. I expect you to respect your teachers and your friends. I expect you to respect law enforcement and those in authority over you. I especially expect you to respect girls, and later, women. When you show respect to others, even when they’re being jerks to you, you will always come out on top.

Remember how blessed you are.

Life is full of hills and valleys, some valleys being worse than others. You have already experienced a deep valley in your young life. Unfortunately, none of us are immune to tragedy. It is easy to count our blessings when we are riding high on top of those hills. The true measure of a person, I believe, is when you can still see the blessings you have in the midst of those valleys. Always remember, no matter what you’re going through in life, be it a big or small challenge, that you are incredibly blessed. When you are facing a challenge, focus on your blessings and hang on to them tight.

Love like your father loved me.

Your Daddy loved me more deeply than I ever thought was possible. He always put me and my needs before his own and he was more concerned with my happiness than his. Son, your dad, loved me with a sacrificial kind of love that all men are called to, but few accomplish. I want you to love your future wife like your Daddy loved me. Love her with everything you have, love her with all your heart, be faithful to her and show her (don’t just tell her) you love her EVERY DAY. One of the very last things your Daddy told me was that he loved me more than his own life. And I know he did. I will treasure that love for the rest of my life.

Put your family first.

I know it’s going to be hard to keep this in mind when working hard to provide for your family or to rise up that corporate ladder, but please remember to put your family first. Always. In all ways. Your family should be at the heart of every decision you make, and if that means turning down a promotion because it would take you away from your kids, so be it. That’s not to say that you should stifle your dreams or cut down your goals; it just means that you need to make sure that whatever decisions you make in your career are truly what’s best for your family. Because in the end, they are all you have.

It is always the right choice to do the right thing.

Son, you will be faced with the temptation to do lots of things because all the other boys are doing it. It may be the temptation to smoke or make fun of the new kid, treat a girl like an object, or cheat on a test. None of these things are worth it in the end. Not only will you disappoint me by choosing the wrong thing, but you will also ultimately disappoint yourself, and that is a far worse feeling.

Doing the right thing is often going to take a great deal of courage and bravery. It will likely make you feel like a bit of an outcast at times. It may even make you the target of nasty comments. I will always be here to help you with making the right choice, and I will be here to help you get through whatever may come from your choice. And I know that you will probably make mistakes here and there, but I want you to remember that a mistake is just a vehicle for learning an important lesson. And I will be here to help you through that, too.

Always put God at the center.

Just like you should always put your family first, so too should you always put God at the center of everything. Your job, your hobbies, your family decisions . . . make sure God is at the center of it all. Even and especially during the tough times. When you make Him the center, you will be blessed, son. I promise you this.

My baby, you are far too young for any of this to mean anything to you right now. But I promise that one day you will need these bits and pieces of advice. Tuck them away in your heart and draw them out when you need them. You are a wonderful blessing to me, to your Daddy, and the world. You are meant for great things, son. I can’t wait to see how you make your mark!

Love,

Mommy

15 Heartfelt And Encouraging Sample Letter For Son

Express your love and care by sharing these letters with your son.

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Watching your son grow is satisfying. But you also wish he could stay young indefinitely, yet he matures in the blink of an eye. Writing a letter for son can be one way to show how important he is to you. As no matter how old he gets, he’ll always be your little angel. Give it a shot on writing, regardless of your feelings about penning a handwritten note. It can be one of the most endearing activities. The pure joy of receiving a note in lovely handwriting is unmatched. Read on if you’re looking for inspiration to show your son how much you care about him. This post explains how to write a touching letter to your son and provides some examples to get you started.

8 Things To Consider Before Writing

1. Keep it simple: You do not have to use flowery language. Use simple words to express your feelings freely and tell him how special he is. Try to make it conversational, as though you are speaking to him in person.

2. Format: There are no strict rules for formatting the letter. Again, the aim is to keep it simple and endearing. You could start with “Dear… / Son” or something adorable, such as his nickname, and end it with a simple “Love” or Mom/ Dad.”

3. It should be handwritten: Text it or email it if you have no other options. But writing it in your beautiful handwriting can have a more powerful effect. He could even save it as a keepsake.

4. Use examples: Include details of those times when he made you proud or happy. Reminisce about his toddler or teenage years and describe those special moments that you would like to relive with him.

5. Use a simile or metaphor: Using a few similes or metaphors can spice up your letter a bit. Do not overdo it, though.

6. Do not worry about the length: The length of the letter doesn’t matter. Even a simple note that you sneak into his lunchbox could mean a lot to him.

7. Include positive words: Sprinkle your letter with positive words such as love, joy, happiness, faith, sacrifice, pride, enjoy, trust, believe, faith, wonderful, promise, genius, and champ.

8. Be honest: Pour your heart out to him through the letter and let him know how much he means to you.

9. Consider son’s age: Write a letter that your son can understand and that meets his emotional development.

15 Sample Letters To Son

1. Letter From Mother To Son

Dear … (Nickname)

On that chilly morning of December 23, you came into this world and sweetened up my life. I can’t thank God enough for the treasure bestowed upon me. Son, you will always be my number one.

You have grown up to be a fine man, and I can’t be more proud. Remember all the things that your father taught you. You might have noticed how he loved me till his last breath.

Cherish our family values of love, respect, hard work, and sacrifice and always put your family first. Raising a family is not a walk in the park, my son. You’ll be faced with challenges along the way, but I know you’ll always rise to a challenge.

You know very well that I’ll always be there for you no matter what. You can lean on me whenever you feel down. Take comfort in the fact that we will together overcome all obstacles that life puts our way.

Be a good husband, and continue to be a great human being.

Love

Mom

2. Letter From Father To Son

Dear Son

The other day, your sister, your mom, and I were playing truth or dare, and I have been asked to write you a letter. Well, you know very well that I am not good with words. So, forgive me if this comes out as bland.

You know, I was 25 when you were born. And now that you are 22, I would like to tell you that the last 22 years of my life were the best years of my life. I am sure your mom would agree too.

It amazes me how time flies. To be frank, I have never wanted you to grow old. But, look at you! You’re all grown up. Even to this day, I have not gotten over the fact that you are now an adult, ready to take on the world. Forgive my possessiveness, but I guess every father feels that way.

I know you are a strong man, and we have complete faith in you. We believe in your dreams, and we will always be there to support you. Do well and achieve your endeavors with flying colors. Well, I can’t wait for my fishing partner. The water in the lake is almost full, by the way.

We hope to see you soon.

Your Dad

P.S. Please grab some Eagle Claw fishing hooks when you come home.

3. Letter To An Angry Son

Dear … (Nickname)

When I yelled at you this afternoon, it was for your own good. You know that playing computer games for more than two hours is not healthy. It breaks my heart to see you angry, but as a parent, it is my duty to correct you when you are wrong. I’m sure you’d rather prefer to be scolded by me than by someone else.

In a couple of years, you’ll be in college, and you’ll be required to make your own decisions. Your dad and I will not be there to tell you what is wrong and what is right each day. I shouted at you because I want you to become a responsible person and someone who can stand on his own feet.

You are a strong kid, and I know you would do anything for your little brother. He is very lucky to have you as an elder brother. He is growing up fast, and I want you to set a good example and be a brother he can look up to. Will you do that for Mom and Dad?

You are my angel, and I know my little angel will never disappoint me.

Love

Mom

4. Proud Parent Letter To Son

Dear … (Nickname)

When you were born, you weighed a whopping 8lb. You were a very bubbly baby, and every time you smiled, you had this twinkle in your eyes that melted my heart. When your daddy first held you in his arms, I remember him telling me, “This big man is going to make us all proud one day. ”

As you start your business, we would like to let you know how proud we are. You have grown up exactly the way we wanted you to, a strong, independent man. You always surprised us as a kid. You would do things without much nudging and still come up with solutions.

We are sure you will be able to handle the pressures of work as you always did in every circumstance. You can rest assured that your dad and I will always have your back. Be kind to your colleagues, and work hard. Remember, “No hard work, no success.” Right?

Congrats on your success, and remember to call us every day.

Love

Mum

5. Letter Of Encouragement To Son

Dear Son

Your selection in the national junior football team came as no surprise to us. You worked hard, and you fully deserved it. Grab this opportunity with both hands and show the world what you are made of.

Even as a kid, you would always carry a football with you, and we always told each other that we would let you live your dreams and take up any profession you like. As football fans ourselves, we can’t be prouder.

Remember, this is just the beginning. You have to take each day as it comes and work hard at reaching the highest level. Our community is going to be proud of you. In everything you do, put in that extra effort and bring joy to your dear ones.

We know you’ll continue to make us proud as always. All the best, and train hard.

Love

Mum and Dad

6. Birthday Letter To Son

Dear … (Name/ Nickname)

Happy birthday to the best son in the world. Although we could not be there to celebrate this special day with you, we hope you will have a blast with your friends at the university.

As you turn 23 today, we can’t help but reminisce about the day you were born. For us, you will always be our little angel who can warm any heart with your smile and laughter.

We are more than blessed to have you in our lives. Continue to spread joy and be a blessing to everyone you meet.

We hope you like the gift. It was your sister’s idea.

Enjoy your special day!

Love

Mom, Dad, and Sis

7. Letter To Son From A Single Mom

Dear … (Name/ Nickname)

This letter might come as a surprise to you, but I couldn’t think of a better way to let you know how I feel. Before I begin, I would like to tell you that you are the strongest person I’ve ever known.

I know how hard it is for you to grow up without a father figure in your life, but I take comfort in the fact that you have a good heart.

Son, although it’s just the two of us, remember that I’m always there for you, and my only wish is to see you grow up to be a good man. Let’s be each other’s pillar of strength no matter what the circumstances.

I love you.

Mom

8. Inspirational Letter To Son

Dear Son

Congratulations on turning 18. As you are officially a man now, I’m writing to you to let you know a few things that I believe would help you, for they definitely helped me.

1. Remember that nothing in life comes for free. You need to work hard to earn every penny. Your mom and I would not be there forever to help you financially. In a year or two, we expect you to work even harder and become independent. Whether you become rich or poor would depend on how hard you work now.
2. Fall in love. Love is the most beautiful thing in this world. Find yourself a good girlfriend and give her all the love and respect.
3. Nothing in this life is permanent, and as we have only one life, cherish every moment. Do daring things, make wise decisions, and surround yourself with people who challenge you to do greater things.

We look forward to seeing you during the winter vacation. Until then, work hard and continue to make us proud. I have complete faith that you will do well.

Your Dad

9. Letter To A Grown Son

Dear … (Name/ Nickname)

Remember when you were learning to ride a bicycle? At first, your dad and I would support you, and then, after a few falling-and-getting-up-again episodes, you were able to ride it on your own. Similarly, you are now at a stage where you are ready to take on the world. I have no doubt that you’ll do very well.

You have grown up to be a good man, my child. As you start your professional journey, we wish you all the good things that life could offer you. Always do your job with that beautiful smile on your face.

You have followed your dreams and worked hard to be where you are today. Take a moment to pat yourself on the back. It gives me immense happiness and satisfaction that you’ll be able to impact several lives in your profession—the ever-giving person that you have always been.

Put your heart and soul into your job, and we hope to see you soon.

Lots of love and prayers for you.

Mom

10. Letter To A Teenage Son

Dear … (Name/ Nickname)

If someone asked me what my greatest achievement is, I would say, “Bringing my child into this world hands down.” You have brought such joy into my life that I would ask for nothing more from God, except to continue blessing you.

You are now 15 and at the best time of your life. You will finish school in a few years, and when you grow up, you will look back at the teenage years with a sense of satisfaction. Enjoy every moment with friends at school and do well in your studies, as these are the defining years of your life.

I promise to work at being the best parent I can be for you, and as a son, I want you to become the best teenager you can be. Remember that I am strict with you at times because I want you to become the best version of yourself. I’m sure you’ll thank me one day.

As a teenager, your job is to work hard at school, participate in extracurricular activities, respect your elders, and keep learning as much as possible.

Remember, I am always there beside you whenever you need help or need to talk to me.

Love

Mum

11. Letter To An Alcoholic Son

Dear … (Nickname)

This is one of the hardest things that we have to ever write to you. I write this, knowing that I need an outlet, and if I cannot tell what’s in my heart to my own son, I cannot tell it to anyone.

Son, you know your dad and I love you and will always be your loving parents, no matter what. Allow us to tell you that you need professional help and sustained abstinence. Forgive us if we are too blunt.

Remember that we are not going to give up on you, and you are always welcome to talk to us anytime you want. Son, it’s not your fault. Let’s work together to overcome this deadly disease, and be an example to people in our community.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Love and hugs

Mom

12. Letter To An Estranged Adult Son

Dear Son

There isn’t a single day that your dad and I don’t think about you. What happened between us is unfortunate.

I am writing to let you know that we have forgiven you. Our home has become dull without you. We have full faith that you will come back home, and when you do, we will welcome you with open arms.

Son, misunderstandings happen in all families, and as a young man, we know you have your perspectives on things that may not quite align with ours. But it doesn’t mean that the conflict cannot be resolved. It is how we overcome those that define us as a family and as individuals.

I know for sure that you are still angry. But if you do not forgive, you are blocking your own road to happiness. Before you go to sleep tonight, think of all the good times that we spent together as a family. You are a brave man, and brave people have it in them to forgive.

Give me a call whenever you wish to talk and take it easy on yourself.

I love you.

Mom

13. Letter To Son Who Is Getting Married

Dear Son

Firstly, congratulations on your engagement, and more importantly, for finding a strong and independent woman to be your life partner. Your mom and I couldn’t have asked for a better woman to be our daughter-in-law.

We know you will make a lovely husband and a good one at that. It gives us great satisfaction that we have raised a good son. We are particularly impressed with the way both of you treat each other with respect. The chemistry between you two is evident.

I am sure every parent waits eagerly for this special day in the life of their children. Thank you for making it a reality.

Cherish every moment leading up to the wedding day as this is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. Plan the wedding meticulously and let us know if we could be of any help.

Love

Your Dad

14. Letter To Son Who Is Attending College

Dear Son

I know you are both anxious and excited about attending college. I have been there too. Trust me, you are in for something very special.

The days you spend at college will be the best days of your life. Your mom and I will no longer be there to check on your every project. But we know you will do well.

You are now an independent person, and you’ll have to make decisions that will have an impact on where you will reach in your life. Of course, we have your back and will always be there to guide you whenever you need us.

Explore, make new friends, read as many books as you could, participate in different activities, party responsibly, be open to different perspectives, and welcome people of all cultures into your life.

All the best!

Your Dad

15. Graduation Letter To Son

Dear Son

I have fond memories of the first day I drove you to kindergarten. As I walked you to the classroom, you were shocked and confused, oblivious to what was happening around you. You just sat on your chair as I watched you from the window. Soon, you were having the time of your life with the other kindergarteners. That day, I knew you would do well at school.

And here we are, 18 years later. You have grown up to be a person I imagined and prayed for. Congratulations on your graduation, son. Seeing you in your graduation gown the other day brought tears in my eyes. It was one of the proudest days of my life. This is the best gift you could ever give me, son.

You’ve worked hard for this, and you deserve all the success. Besides doing very well in college, you have also set a great example for your brother and sister. Great Job!

I love you!

Mom

P.S. Your grandma and grandpa are coming over this weekend.

Writing a letter to your son isn’t difficult when you know what to say and the message you want to pass on to him. A heartfelt letter for the son can make him feel special. Refer to the tips and sample letters to write a meaningful and deep letter to your handsome boy. You must ensure to keep it simple and write it by yourself. Choose a format that suits your preference or take inspiration from the ones you come across. Also, be honest and conversational to express all your love, appreciation, and feelings for him.

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From Father To Son: A Letter Of Love And Advice

To my son,

I think often of the legacy I leave for you. I wonder how memory will color me in your eyes. If you will look back at the lessons I tried to impart and find value in them or if you will throw them all aside and see them as meaningless rubbish held by a man who had no real idea about the world.

Though I can not know what you will do with the lessons that I offer, I want to impart a few gifts of wisdom that I have accumulated in my years. My hope is that you will take them into your life to make it bigger than mine ever was.

Always protect those that are weaker than you.

As you are already such a compassionate and caring child, I imagine you will be even more so when you grow up. I have no doubt that you will be a man who is filled with a quiet strength that can only be born from a deep, confident concern for the world. Never lose that. I never had it and I want that you should never lose it. It makes you already greater than your father and that is all we fathers ever want our sons to be.

The world will try to convince you that your strength should be used to get what you want, and it should sometimes, but never at the expense of anyone else.

Use your strength more often to help others get what they want. You are lucky to have been born and lived in the circumstances and situations to which you were born. I was not so lucky growing up. Appreciate your fortune and always lend yourself to improving the world of those who were not so fortunate.

Give often and deep from the stores of your blessings. Be a light to the world and never a shadow. Do not be afraid to throw a punch to protect the people who need it. It is not ideal but occasionally necessary that we must defend, but we never attack.

Never be afraid to make some mistakes.

You are going to make mistakes, my son. Some big and some little. Some that will fill you up with regret and sadness, and linger like the smell of smoke soaked into your clothes and some that you will shake off like a cold, dry snow that does not stick but leaves you chilled. Never be afraid to move in the direction of failures. It is the direction of life changers and market makers.

If your mistakes be small; laugh them off. You should always be comfortable laughing at yourself and never try to take this living too serious. If your mistakes be large; laugh them off and learn from them. Big or small a mistake is nothing for regretting.

Regrets are born in chances not taken, mistakes avoided because of comfort too-long-held. Be happy with your mistakes and learn the lessons they teach because most of your mistakes will end up being the regrets of people who never had the courage to make them.

Be a renaissance man.

Learn how to dance. How to tie a tie. How to fix a sink and how to mend a broken heart. Never be afraid to cry and never be scared of the tears of another. Read poetry and memorize the poems that strike your soul. Read everything, in fact, and keep a book with you always. Keep your body fit and your mind sharp. Come to love and spend as much time as possible in the outdoors. Camping. Hiking. Running. Living. But come back to the world in a suit and a tie, with the manners of a prince and the wit of a bard. Live dangerous and free and full of passion. Travel often, everywhere, and live among the natives. Learn new languages and new customs and make friends with the world.

Be vulnerable. Love and respect your mother, and all women and people in fact, to the amount which is proper – fully and eternally. Expose your heart and soul to the world but never expect anyone to understand. Be the life of the party but never be out of control. Know how to carry on a conversation and how to make the world laugh, but recognize the need for sincerity and give your shoulder often for others to cry upon.

Learn to appreciate the arts. Support lost causes. Be a philosopher of life and never think that you know enough about anything to be certain. Wear the cool, quiet confidence of a wolf and keep a close pack of loyal friends. Work with your hands and your heart and your mind and your soul and be the little bit of the everything that a man should be in this world.

Chase the butterflies, splash in the puddles and catch the snowflakes on your tongue.

There will come a time when the world will tell you that the childish things you so much enjoy now are no longer befitting a man of your age. When they tell you that I want you to look them straight in the eyes, smile your charming smile and tell them that all the fun in all the world was invented from the pursuit of childish things and they can go fuck themselves.

Never give up the sillies, my boy. Never stop laughing your laugh. When your child is born, carry on our tradition of tickle fights and puddle jumping. Teach them of Tybalt and Mercutio with sword fights in the rain. Teach them the difference between a toot and a fart and the other important nuances of bodily emanations.

Do not ever let life convince you of its seriousness and always find a way to laugh and make others laugh. No one leaves this experiment alive so find a reason to smile more than you scowl and laugh more than you cry. The world will do it’s best to fit you in a mold but I want you to wiggle and jiggle and burst your way out; run naked and free catching snowflakes on your tongue, showing the world how fast you can run.

Don’t let the world steal your wonder. And never let them ransack all the beautiful, brilliant things in your head. Chase those flying things – your dreams and ideas and passions. Those colorful things that come into your life that beg you to be pursued and appreciated. Ignore all the snares of a traditional life and find a life that fits you.

Rebel as often as is necessary and as far as is required.

My single greatest want for you is that you cultivate a mind of rebellion. Intellectually, politically, socially and personally. Never be complacent with the status quo. Average will suck you into a hole and eat away your soul. Don’t let yourself fall into that trap. You are better than average. Everyone is better than average.

I want you to interrogate the universe and never be satisfied that you have found the truth. Never accept a rule simply because it exists. Never accept a reason simply because it was said. Never stop searching just because you finally find a belief you think you can trust. You will come to hold so many beliefs in your life and the truth you hold now will be a lie to you someday. So always be asking if it should be this way now.

But rebel with respect and rebel with reason. Raging against every inconsequential slight is not a way to rebellion. You must choose the battles that matter – the ones that mean the most for your heart and soul – and move unwaveringly in the direction of your conscience. You should never seek to harm in your rebellion, only to remedy injustice by the least aggressive means. In that you will become the type of revolutionary the world can come to appreciate. And if they can’t appreciate that sort of rebellion – fuck ‘em! They are the ones you are rebelling against.

Interrogate the universe.

Grow up to be a thinker, my son. Come to reason well. Never let your sense of wonder be taken from you by the jaded misers of age and experience. Every moment of life is a wondrous explosion of improbability and uncertainty and to be here to experience it is a never ending gift of fortune and fate.

Celebrate your luck in being involved in the beautiful randomness of the world and seek to know the patterns of living by always asking why. Be a great conquistador of intellectual pursuit, not for the sake of knowing but for the sake of living. The currency of living is philosophy. It, above all things, will make your life worth anything. Find it early, explore it often and embrace it fully. The ideas you find there will change your life and the life of those around you.

Never lose your sense of discovery and wonder. Never cease to be awed by the everything in the world and never stop asking what it all means and how you fit in. Be bold in your inquiry but gentle with the answers. Do not lose yourself in your search. As David Hume once said,

“Be a philosopher but above all be first a human”

And as we are mere mortal philosophers we must be satisfied with the nothing that we will ever truly know but we must constantly search for the something that we can know right now.

Fall in love as often as you can.

If there is anything that you should look forward to in life it is love. You will develop an immunity to cooties someday and you will find yourself pulled inexplicably towards someone that makes your heart thump-thump and your mind race. Jump into that deep, deep water as often as you can stand. Despite the risk of drowning, it will always make a beautiful splash.

Yes, sometimes you do risk drowning, but to swim in the waters of love at all you must accept the occasional uncertainty of the depths. You can not stay in the shallow waters of your heart and expect to find happiness. You must always go deeper. Deeper is where the beautiful fish swim.

And when your heart breaks, I want you to pick up the pieces and take the time to repair it. Not the way that it is but with gold at the seams. Kintsugi your heart and let the gold at the broken pieces be a part of your history with love.

Because people you love will come and go, but you must never stop loving. Not ever. Giving our heart to another is the greatest gift that we have, but never believe that when someone trashes our gift that they are saying the quality of your love is lacking. Not everyone will appreciate your special kind of heart and your perfect kind of soul, but if you keep loving you will find the person who can.

Always remember that you are loved beyond words.

I have said a lot in this letter to you but I will never be able to say enough that will express the love I have for you. It is a never-ending, always growing, from-here-to-eternity, expanse of love that my heart holds for you.

If you remember nothing else of the wisdom and advice I have tried to give you remember this above all things; you are so deeply loved in this world. Not just by me and your mother and your family and friends but by the universe itself. It conspires to make you amazing and it desires to see you in joy.

But when I have to leave you I want you to remember – my love for you will always be there because it has no way to escape. It is too much for the universe to remove. I will never be gone from you and you will never be gone from me. Always remember that.

This is not the only advice I want to give you, my son, but it is the general advice that will serve you well. You can take it or not.

My secret wish is that you should throw all my advice away, crumple it up and leave it sitting on your bedroom floor and go live – go live a life that is true for you.

And in many years – as you go out and live your life, as you go out and become your own man, you find a partner, you have children, you become a success – that you come home one day and find that old ball of advice still there.

And you carefully uncrumple it and read through it with a smile, realizing that the wisdom stuck with you still and you became every inch the man I tried to help you be. And even better, you became so much more.

And you erase my name from the letter and sign it with your own.

And you go back to your home and slide it under your son’s door. Because you will want the same that for him that I always wanted for you. To be a light in this world that outshines all others.

Love eternally,

Your Father, Your Friend, and Your Biggest Fan.

 

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Dear Zachary: A Letter to a Son About His Father (2008)

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I cannot praise this heartfelt documentary enough. Too often documentaries with such a personal tie have touch (or more) of vanity. Not Dear Zachary.

Kurt Kuenne could have easily turn this tribute to a dead friend into a vanity project, or overly sentimental. The evolution of this project is full of sentiment, indeed, but is done so in such a way that the viewer is completely engaged in the story and feels the loss on a personal level.

This is the hardest film to review because to explain it, is to spoil the experience of it. Let’s just say that Andrew Bagby was a very loved person, and this tribute to a man whose life was brutally cut short could have easily been a depressing, dark tale. Instead, while it has some wrenching moments, it’s ultimately a love story of family and friends, and the powerful influence people can have in each others lives, for good and for ill.

If you have the opportunity to catch this film, do not hesitate to do it. This is one I’m adding to my DVD collection as soon as it’s available.

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15 Examples To Inspire the Right Words

Sometimes, nothing says it better than a letter.

But when you sit down to write, a blank page tauntingly stares back at you.

So today, we’re lending a helping hand to all the mothers out there writing heartfelt letters to their sons who may need a little inspiration to get started.

We’ve curated a list of 15 samples.

Feel free to steal them outright or tweak them to your situation.

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How To Write a Heartfelt Letter to Your Son

Writing a heartfelt message to your son is a thoughtful way to express feelings, reveal your opinion about a given situation, or congratulate him — for feats big and small. When composing the prose, keep a few simple tips in mind.

1. Keep it Simple: Complicating things, including a letter to son from mom, is rarely a good idea.
2. Express Love: Even if the relationship is going through a rocky patch, express love. You won’t regret it down the road.
3. Be Positive: Strive to make your ”message to my son” positive. Use positive imagery and affirmations.
4. Be Honest: Honesty is the best policy — especially when communicating with your children. Moreover, kids have impeccable behavioral radars when it comes to their parents. If anyone can sense when you’re less than truthful, it’s your kids.

What Should I Include in a Letter to My Son?

What you include in a letter to your son depends on their age and situation. If you’re penning prose just to let your little guy know you love him unconditionally, include affirmative words and phrases.

If you’re writing a letter to your son to express disappointment in something he said or did, be specific about your hurts, but don’t litter the page with insults and barbs.

Letter to Son from Mom: 15 Examples To Inspire the Right Words

It may seem quaint and old-fashioned, but writing a letter to your son is a loving act that he may cherish forever. Plus, it’s a great way to express your emotions. For several reasons, many people can better emote in letters than in face-to-face conversation.

To that end, we’ve cobbled together a few sample letters to a son from a mother. Feel free to use them any way you’d like.

Proud Parent Letter to Son

1. Dearest Son,

I cannot believe you did it! Of course, I knew you were capable — because you’ve always accomplished everything to which you’ve set your mind — but there were times I thought you would give up. But now that you’ve graduated, the world is your oyster, and with your smarts, work ethic, and generous spirit, I know you’ll land somewhere wonderful doing admirable things.

I’m beyond proud of you — and yes, I’ve been bragging about you all over town. Sue me.

You’re tops, kid, and I’ll always love you, no matter what.

Warmly,

Mom

2. To My Dear Son,

I’ve always said that you needn’t follow the traditional path of success for me to be proud of you — and I meant it! And today, I could not be more filled with pride that you opted to follow your passion and calling instead of staying on the road to “Should-ville. ”

So long as you work hard, stay true, and treat other people — regardless of who they are or what they look like — with respect and generosity, the Universe will reward you.

Be yourself. Work hard. Spread love. The rest will follow.

I love you,

Mom

3. Dearest [Son’s Name],

You continue to astound me. I’ve always thought you were amazing and talented — but I’m your mother! Of course, I felt that way! But your latest accomplishment makes me sit back in awe. I cannot believe I had a hand in creating you. It feels impossible!

But remember, even if you didn’t achieve great professional and financial heights, I’d still think you’re marvelous — because you’re a good person on the inside. Stay true to yourself, respect other people, and let compassion and hard work be your guides.

All my love,

Your humble mother

Heartfelt Letter to Son from Mom

4. To My Baby Boy,

I know I can be an overbearing gnat, but it’s just because I love you so darn much! My motherly instincts push me to micromanage. Unfortunately, that urge occasionally carries me over boundaries — for which I’m sorry and apologize.

It won’t happen again, and I hope you can find a way to forgive your well-meaning mom. Moreover, if I can do anything to set things right, just say the word and consider it done.

Sincerely, remorsefully, and with loads of love —

Mom

5. To My [Nickname],

It’s unusual for me to write letters, but this is a special circumstance. I wanted to clarify how I feel, and a letter seemed right.

I know that growing up without a father figure was difficult, and I’m sorry for that. But you must have had a mighty guardian angel — because look how wonderful you’ve turned out! 

I’m inspired by the man you’ve become, and although it should probably be the other way around, you’ve always been an incredible pillar of strength for me.

People may come and go from our lives, but know that we’ll always have each other. And when the time comes when you welcome a significant other into your life, I’ll embrace them as my own. Because if they’re good enough for you, then they’re good enough for me.

I love you more than myself,

Mommy

6. Dear Son [Name],

Remember when we first got you a bike? In the beginning, Dad and I would support you, but eventually, you were peddling away on your own. Today, you’re once again at a point where our support will taper off, and you’ll face the world without training wheels. I’m positive you’ll do excellent.

You’ve turned into an admirable man, and as you embark on your professional journey, I pray your path is paved with good things. There’s lots of work and big decisions ahead. But today, pat yourself on the back. You’ve done well, and I am so very proud of you.

Hope to see you soon,

Mother

Emotional Letter to Son From Mom

7. Dearest Beloved Son,

Together, we’ve made it through hell and back. Life has not been kind or easy for either of us. And yet, here we are. Somehow — whether thanks to the grace of God or through our own perseverance — we [Last Name]s always land on our feet.

And so we will again. Things currently look bleak, but there’s a light at the end of this dark tunnel. I promise you that. So, in the meantime, we’ll put one foot in front of the other and keep trucking. Together, we can move mountains, and this is no exception.

Stay strong,

Mom

8. Sweet boy,

You’re my biggest blessing, and watching you grow has been my life’s joy. I love the personality you’re developing; to me, you’re perfect.

I wish I could fix some of the harsh realities you’ve already had to face. I want to banish them for your life and memory. It’s devastating that we already must deal with such toxic, cruel obstacles. But alas, nobody promised anybody an easy existence. In fact, some say life is all about suffering.

So, instead of letting the hard times get us down, let’s allow ourselves to feel whatever emotions arise, make peace with them, and then start again. Life is too long to spend it treading in a pool of negativity. Together, let’s find some joy.

Be well. I’m always here for you.

Love,

Mom

Inspirational Letter to Son

9. Happy 21st Birthday, Son:

You made it! You’re a full-fledged legal adult. In honor of the milestone, I’m passing on five “don’ts” that will make your life journey a heck of a lot smoother.

1. Don’t overspend in your 20s. It may feel like you’re Scrooge McDuck when you get your first “real” job. I promise you’re not. So limit yourself to going out once a week. If you stick to that rule, in 10 years, you’ll have a nice nest egg. Your friends who were partying every night will not.
2. Don’t lead women on. Don’t ghost them either. If you go on a date with someone and aren’t feeling it, let her know instead of ignoring her. It’s unkind, and I didn’t raise an unking son.
3. Don’t dump friends because they don’t appear to be “making it.” A lot of second-rate self-help authors advise ridding yourself of people who aren’t at your “level. ” That’s a bunch of hogwash. Always be good to people who are good to you, regardless of their material status. Besides, life is filled with twists and turns, and you never know where people may end up.
4. Don’t indulge in gossip. Nothing good ever comes of it, and in the worst cases, gossip will come back to bite you in the butt. Plus, you never know what’s going on in someone’s life behind closed doors. Be compassionate and curious instead of judgmental and punishing.
5. Don’t overestimate your opinions. The human brain is a complex engine that frequently lies straight to our senses. And all too often, what we think we know for certain is frequently wrong. To put it another way: nobody is as wonderful and good as they think, including you. So don’t let an inflated ego trip you up.

Now get out there and get ‘em, tiger!

I love you a whole lot,

Mom

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10. Dearest Child,

Have I ever told you about the time I colossally messed up? [Insert details of a big mistake here.]

And look at me now. I’m still here. I’m still breathing. I’m still pestering you. And most would say I have a pretty good life. It all goes to show that picking yourself up after a fall is possible. I beg you: don’t let mistakes define you. If you do, you’ll trap yourself in a rumination spiral — a place where progress dies.

You are loved. You are brilliant. You can do this. At the end of the day, turning things around is a mere trick of the mind. So dust yourself off and get back up. You’ve got this.

I have faith in you,

Mom

11. To My Favorite Son,

OK, you’re my only son, but you’re still my favorite!

Alas, your wedding day has arrived, and I wanted to take a private moment to congratulate you. I love [daughter-in-law’s name] and couldn’t be happier for you. You’re an incredible human being, and I know you’ll be a wonderful husband and father.

Stick to your commitment, be an A+ listener, and try to temper your ego in times of difficulty. If you stick to those three things, you two will create a solid foundation to build a loving family.

I love you,

Mom

Letter to My Grown Son

12. Dearest Son,

I see you now and can hardly believe it. I know it’s cliche to say, but my memories wander back to the day we brought you home. You were a spit of a person, and we were so scared. The responsibility felt overwhelming.

But we quickly got the hang of everything — and you ensured we were as sleep-deprived as possible. During those early, exhausting days, our family bond began. It’s grown stronger every day since.

And today, we’re elated to welcome another bonding force to our clan, your newborn, our grandchild. For the next several years, your days will be long and weary, but know that it’s all for good. Not only are you building an unbreakable connection with your baby, but you’re adding another pillar of strength to our family.

Welcome to parenthood. I’m so proud of you for making it here.

All my love,

Mommy

13. Dearest Baby,

I know you’re a grown man, but you’ll always be my baby — and what a wonderful baby you’ve grown up to be.

No, you may not be a top CEO, and you certainly don’t make millions of dollars trading stocks. In my eyes, you’re better than that: you’re one of the few people on this planet who grew up to know the difference between genuine and performative kindness. You don’t just say you’re generous; you prove it with actions.

Money isn’t everything — but being a good person is. I’m so glad you chose the latter.

Proudly,

Mom

Letter to Estranged Son from Mother

14. Dear [Name],

It’s been a while — too long. Yes, we have our differences, but you’re still my son no matter what. We may fight and argue, but my love is unconditional. Moreover, I now realize I wasn’t 100% right. Ultimately, the way I’ve behaved is inexcusable. I did not live up to my responsibilities as a parent. I let appearances guide my way instead of the unconditional love I should have had for my child.

Proving that I’m sorry will take time. I don’t expect you to accept me back without effort. But I hope we can try again.

I’m sorry, and I love you,

[Name]

15. Dear Son,

It may be difficult for you to believe, but there isn’t a day that I don’t think about you. What transpired between us was unfortunate, but it didn’t wipe out my love for you.

We’ve forgiven you, and we miss you. If you want, you’re more than welcome back home.

Also, although your dad may think otherwise, I recognize that we, too, weren’t perfect and made mistakes that led to the situation.

Son, families experience ups and downs; moreover, we won’t always agree on some pretty big things. Regardless, I’m confident we can find common-enough ground on which to rebuild a relationship.

You may not be ready to come back — and, ultimately, that decision is yours to make. All I ask is that before you go to sleep tonight, try to think of all the loving times we spent together as a family.

Give me a call whenever you’re ready to talk. Let’s start patching things up.

I love you.

Mom

Good luck writing a heartfelt letter to your son. If you’re sincere and loving, you have nothing to worry about.         

A letter from a father to his son is wise advice and instructions

A father’s love for his children is incomprehensible, but sometimes it is difficult for him to show his feelings. Therefore, a letter from a father to his son is an excellent tool in which he can convey parting words to him and tell him about his feelings. Every man dreams of a son who will continue his family and pass on his name to future generations.

And before entering adulthood, every guy would like to receive wise advice from his father and see his participation in his life, even if he is far away. I do not have a son, but I have a beloved son-in-law, who is like a son to me. It is to him that this appeal of the father is addressed, which I would say to my own son.

I hope these will be strong and beautiful words of a father’s parting words to his son. In this letter, as a father, I showed him my feelings and gave him instructions. Although this is not the letter of William Lannerd, which is said to have shocked the world, it is no less sensual and powerful in meaning.

Check for yourself. Surely you yourself would like to receive a similar letter from your father. Also read the beautiful letter to her son from his mother that she wrote to him on his wedding day. It will surely move you to tears.

A touching letter from a father to his son

Dear son, I decided to write this letter to you for at least four reasons:

1. Life is unpredictable, no one knows how long he will live. Therefore, some words are better said in advance.
2. I am not only your father-in-law, but also your father. If I don’t say these words to you, no one else will.
3. What is written is my personal experience, which, perhaps, will save you from many traps and unnecessary mental suffering.
4. You are already an adult, independent man, so I want to pass on to you some skills and wise advice that, unfortunately, my father did not tell me. (Here is a list of beautiful phrases and quotes about fathers that show their influence on the lives of children.)

Keep the following in mind as you go through life:

1). Remember that you are a man, not a boy

First of all, I will start with the fact that one becomes a man beyond his age. Nothing supernatural happens when you are 16, 18, 22 or 40 years old. Being a man does not mean flexing your muscles in front of a mirror, being impulsive and constantly showing superiority over others.

Manhood is a lifelong process, not a few spectacular displays. This is a struggle with oneself in different areas: with fear, selfishness, temptation, laziness. A man and masculinity are perseverance, consistency and responsibility. Responsibility for oneself, one’s loved ones and one’s actions. ( Read more about what kind of person a man should be?)

It is important to understand that there is a difference between a boy and a man. The main concern of the boy is himself, so that all his needs are satisfied. A man’s concern is to think about the needs of others.

So son, always think about the needs of the people around you. Thinking about others, you will know how to help them. And helping, you will never become a scoundrel.

Remember , my dear , it’s better to be proud than cursed.

2) Always put God at the center of everything

Just as you must always put your family first in personal preference, you must always put God at the center of everything. Your work, your hobbies, family decisions. . . — make sure that God is at the center of it all. Even in especially difficult times.

From experience, when you make Him the center of everything, you will be blessed, son. I am more than sure of it.

Otherwise, you will encounter problems that you will not be able to solve successfully. (Read beautiful quotes about sons and parental love for them).

3). Don’t compromise your principles

Son, you will be tempted to do a lot of wrong things because everyone else is doing them. It can be different temptations: loans, the pursuit of money and wealth, relationships with other women. Do not do anything for which you will have to pay a price that you cannot accept, because you always have a choice.

Be a free person and never compromise your principles, especially spiritual ones. Don’t get used to buying the world by compromising it. It will cost you your identity. Gradually it will eat away your human dignity.

After some time you will cease to be yourself, and you will be formed the way the world around you wants it. You will soon become a puppet. Don’t be a puppet, son.

Therefore, never be afraid to express your opinion, to be different from others and not to follow the majority to evil. People who have no opinion will remain on the fringes, always fulfilling the whims of others.

4). Develop the right attitude towards life

Life is short. If you spend it in vain today, then tomorrow you will be left with nothing. The sooner you learn to appreciate your life, the more fulfilling life you will live.

In your life, son, there will be different times or opportunities and, unfortunately, not always good ones. You will have many happy moments, but sometimes you will face disappointment. More than once in your life you will be surprised by something.

You will be faced with having to make difficult decisions, especially when others will make fun of them, or not believe in you. Faced with this, do not despair, but act. Fell? Get up and move on! Consider this another lesson in your life.

I want you to know that life consists not only of victories, but also of defeats. Life teaches its lessons in unpredictable times and in unexpected places, and it will also show what kind of man you have become. This is a constant struggle, where victories are replaced by defeats. You will also have them in your life.

Because of this, you will sometimes cry, sometimes you will laugh, you will be pleased, and sometimes you will be afraid. You will feel invulnerable, confident in your strengths, abilities and capabilities, and sometimes you will be overcome by worries or doubts. This is a fight, my son, and it will make you stronger.

Life is a grueling struggle with a hard victory

Remember, you always have a choice of how to build your life and how to react to its blows: drop your hands and droop or fight with clenched teeth. Remember, son, even doing nothing is also a choice.

Therefore, my dear, for most of your life, you will struggle between what you think you are, what you want to be, and who you really are.

5). Be kind and responsible

My son, remember, hardly anyone is ready to suffer for the righteous, but they are ready to suffer for the good. Therefore, it is better to be kind than righteous. Try to be a good person, gentle, sensitive, but strong, courageous, responsible.

Be a person of good character, honest and truthful. Avoid lying, stealing, cheating, or intentionally offending someone.

Try to feel the pain of others. Learn to sympathize not in words, but in deeds. When someone is suffering, you must act to alleviate their suffering.

Respect other people. Learn to say «I’m sorry.» Never expect anything in return for helping other people. Be ready to forgive people and maybe someday they will forgive you. (Read wise words and quotes about forgiveness).

6). Try to be honest and do what is right

Remember, son, in our family we always kept our word and were consistent in making decisions. Therefore, we were trusted by people who knew that you can rely on our word. This is a lesson for you my boy.

Never hide in the bushes, running away from difficulties and always repay debts, even if it is extremely difficult. If you have to make a difficult decision, take it. Your decisions are your toughest critic. Please try to make the right, wise decisions.

Do what is right, even if others do not. Always look at what is right and condemn what is wrong. Do not be silent and do not compromise with your conscience. Do only what you can tell the truth about, and never do what will make you lie. Resist the pressure of the world around you.

How?

Have your own opinion and a clear conscience. Let them be your judges and jury.

7). Remember your last name, your family

They are protected from «dirt» and other people’s complaints. Your surname and clan were deserved by your ancestors and are being passed on to you. They will stay with you for the rest of your life.

Pass them on to your son. Keep the reputation of the family, because you yourself are not its owner. You son, only her keeper for the next generation.

8). Respect women, love your wife, family

What do I want to tell you about women? They should not only be loved, but also respected. It means more than opening a door for a woman or paying for dinner on a date.

To respect women means to really understand how equal they are with a man. Women are strong and smart, but the male society is trying in every possible way to discard this fact.

Therefore, I ask you, learn to see them in the same light in which you see yourself: strong, intelligent and devoted people. (Here are some interesting facts about women you need to know).

Always love your wife. Respect her mother. Be available to your children, never humiliate them, but educate them. Be a good communicator. Don’t be afraid to share your feelings with those you love. Son, a real husband knows the main thing — to hear and listen to those he loves.

My son, remember that a man’s family is of paramount importance. Make up your mind to always protect your family when you get married. Make sure she has a good life. Always put your wife and children at the head of the table. Be a good example for them. Don’t betray your family and they won’t betray you.

9). Work hard and cultivate yourself

Son, a man is required to work hard. Therefore, avoid mediocrity, as well as laziness. Believe in yourself, be ready to improvise, wanting to succeed. Remember : there are always several options to complete the intended task. And a man is always able to do more than he can imagine.

My boy, intelligent curiosity is a good thing. Try to always acquire some knowledge and skills, expand your interests, improve your understanding of even familiar issues. Don’t let questions go unanswered.

Many successful people have not received higher education. This does not mean that you can succeed without acquiring knowledge and useful skills! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life.

You can go from rags to riches, but you have to start from rags! Start from the bottom and reach the top.

Remember : learning is a gift and teaching is a privilege. Having knowledge and being good at something, you will be able to share knowledge by teaching others. I wish you spiritual victories, trophies and read shelves.

10). Love yourself and choose your friends well

Don’t let others dictate how you feel. Enjoy life. Stay healthy. Be honest with yourself, whether you feel good or bad. Have self respect.

Son, learn to choose the right friends for yourself. Avoid bias towards people. Remember, a friend can be more loyal and closer than even a brother. True friends will always help you become better. When choosing friends, avoid arrogant people who like to humiliate others or make fun of someone’s shortcomings.

Such people like to have their last word. These are bad friends. From such friendship, son, you will suffer. You are not on your way with them.

To have good friends, be a real friend to others.

A true friend always loves, he is a brother you can rely on in trouble. Bible. Proverbs 17:17

11).

Deal with disappointments and keep a positive attitude

Sometimes in life you will win, and sometimes you will lose something, because life today is not fair. But, your losses, not victories, will better shape you as a man. Learn from your losses.

Maintain a healthy sense of humor, especially when it comes to laughing at yourself for your mistakes. This will allow you to have more masculine virtues.

Your mother and I are proud of you. We love you and are sure that you will be able to achieve great victories by reaching great heights. What you make of your life and what you turn it into is up to you. You have the necessary tools, resources and knowledge to make life truly satisfying.

Your loving father-in-law, and my (father’s) letter to you (my son).

Final words to the letter for the son

Being a father is one of the most important roles in the life of an adult man. But being a father is also a huge responsibility and duty. It is the role of the father that has a huge impact on the life of every child.

Unfortunately, we can’t always say what we mean or do what we say. We may not always show our affection for our son, but deep down, we always think about our boy.

Therefore, a letter from a father to his son is an excellent way to communicate with him, especially when the father cannot say something touching and sincere face to face. This gives him the opportunity to speak from the bottom of his heart. And if you are looking for words to show what a son means to a father, then take an example from this letter.

All fathers have something to say to their son. And for a son to receive a letter from his father — this is once again convinced of his father’s care and love.

What do you say? Have you ever written a letter to your son telling him how much you love him and how proud you are of him? If not, then you should write.

Video: a letter from a father to his son that shocked the whole world

Touching letters from a father to his son — A site for the soul

Death is always a surprise. Nobody is waiting for her. Even the terminally ill don’t really think they’re going to die in a day or two. Well, maybe in a week. But not this week.

We are never ready. There is no right time for this. When the time comes, you will not have time to do everything you want. The end always comes unexpectedly, and this is a very sad moment for the widowed and boring for children who still do not quite understand what a funeral is (and thank God).

It was the same with my father. In fact, his death was even more unexpected. He left at the age of 27. The same age that claimed the lives of several famous musicians. He was young. Too young. My father was not a musician or a famous person. Cancer does not choose its victims. He left when I was little, and because of him I understood what a funeral is. I was 8 and a half, long enough to miss him for the rest of my life. If he had died earlier, I would have no memories. I wouldn’t feel pain. I wouldn’t have a father in my life. And so I had a father.

I had a father who was both strict and cheerful. The one who told the joke before scolding me. As a result, I didn’t feel so bad. The one who kissed my forehead before going to sleep. A habit that I passed on to my children. The one who made me root for the same football team as him and who explained everything better than my mother. Such a father is missed.

He never told me he was going to die. Even as he lay in the hospital bed with tubes all over his body, he didn’t say anything. He made plans for the next year, even knowing that he would not be around in a month. Next year we would go fishing, travel and go to places we have never been. Next year would be amazing. We dreamed about the same thing.

I believe—I’m actually sure—he thought it would bring good luck. He was a superstitious person. Making plans for the future was a way of keeping hope alive. He made me laugh until the very last moment. He knew about it. But he didn’t speak. He didn’t see me cry. And suddenly, the next year ended without even starting.

Mom picked me up from school and we went to the hospital. The doctor broke the news with all the feelings that doctors have lost in recent years. Mom was crying. She still had a little bit of hope. Like everyone else. What did it all mean? That it wasn’t an ordinary disease that doctors treat with a single shot? I hate you dad. I felt betrayed. I screamed in anger in the hospital until I realized my father wasn’t there to scold me. I cried.

And then my father became my father again. With a shoe box under her arm, a nurse approached me. The box was full of sealed envelopes with various inscriptions in place of the addressee. I couldn’t understand what was going on. Then the nurse gave me a letter. The only one that wasn’t in the box.

“Your dad asked me to give you this letter. He’s been writing it for a week, and he wants you to read it. Be strong,” the nurse said.

It was written on the envelope: «When I’m gone «. I opened it.

“Son,

If you are reading this, then I am dead. Sorry. I knew that I would die.

I didn’t want to tell you what would happen, I didn’t want to see you cry. But still I did it. I think a person who is about to die has the right to act a little selfishly.

But as you can see, I still have a lot to teach you. After all, you don’t know a damn thing about anything. That’s why I wrote these letters for you. You must not open them until the right moment arrives. Good? This is our contract.

I love you. Take care of mom. Now you are the man in the house.

With love, dad.

P . S . I didn’t write letters to my mother. She has my car.»

I stopped crying when I saw his poor handwriting. It even made me smile.

That box became the most important thing in the world to me. I told my mom not to open it. Those letters were mine and no one could read them. I knew by heart all the life moments written on the envelopes. But they didn’t happen right away. And I forgot about them.

After 7 years, when we moved to a new place, I even forgot where the box was. I couldn’t remember. And when we do not remember, then it does not matter to us. If you have lost something in your memory, it does not mean that you have lost it. So it doesn’t exist anymore. It’s like change in your pants pocket.

And so it happened. My puberty and my mother’s new men led to what my father had foreseen long before. My mom had several boyfriends and I always understood that. She never remarried. I don’t know why, but I want to believe that because my father was the love of her life. But one boyfriend, nevertheless, was not worth it. I thought she was humiliating herself by dating him. He didn’t respect her. She deserved someone much better than the guy she met at the bar.

I still remember her slap when I said the word bar. I admit that I deserve it. I figured it out years later. But while my skin was still burning from the slap, I remembered the box and the letters. I remembered a special letter called «When You Have Your Worst Fight with Mom.»

I searched all over my bedroom to find him, for which I got another slap in the face. And I found the box inside the suitcase on top of the closet. In limbo, I looked through the letters and realized that I forgot to open When You Have Your First Kiss. I hated myself for it and decided that this would be the next letter I opened. «When You Lose Your Virginity» was next, a letter I hoped to open soon. Finally, I found what I was looking for.

“Now apologize to her.

I don’t know why you quarreled and I don’t know who is right. But I know your mom. Therefore, a humble apology is the best way to solve everything. I’m talking about sorry on my knees.

She’s your mother, baby. She loves you more than anything in the world. Do you know that she agreed to a natural birth because someone told her that it would be best for you? Have you ever seen a woman giving birth? Do you need more proof than this?

Sorry. She will forgive you.

With love, dad.”

My father was not a great writer, he was a simple bank clerk. But his words had a huge impact on me. They had more wisdom than my 15 years at the time.

I went to my mother’s room and opened the door. I cried when she turned to me and looked into my eyes. She was crying too. I don’t remember what she yelled at me. Probably something like «What do you want?». But I remember walking up to her with my dad’s letter. I hugged her, crumpling an old piece of paper. She hugged me and we stood like that in silence.

A few minutes later she was laughing at her father’s letter. We made up and talked a little about him. She talked about his most eccentric habits, such as eating salami with strawberries. And I somehow felt as if he was sitting next to us. Me, my mother and the piece of my father that he left for us on a piece of paper. It was a pleasant feeling.

Soon the moment came when I read When You Lose Your Virginity:

“Congratulations, son.

Don’t worry, it will get better with time. The first time always sucks. I was with an ugly woman… who was also a prostitute.

My biggest fear is that you won’t ask your mother what virginity is after you read this on the envelope.

With love, father.”

My father has been with me all my life, even though he was not around. His words did what no one else could: they gave me the strength to overcome countless moments of difficulty. He always found a way to bring a smile back to my face, even when it was sad, or cool down the ardor in moments of anger.

“When You Get Married” touched me a lot. But not like «When you become a father.»

“Now you will understand what true love is, son. You will understand how much you love her, but true love is what you will feel for this little creature. I don’t know if it’s a boy or a girl. I’m just a corpse, not a fortune teller.

Have fun. This is great. Time will fly by now, so be always there. Don’t miss the moment, you won’t get it back. Change diapers, bathe your baby, be a role model for him. I think you understand what it means to be a great father like me.”

The most painful letter I ever read in my life was the shortest one my father wrote. While he was writing these three words, I think he suffered as much as I lived through that moment. Time passed and in the end I opened “When my mother is gone”:

“Now she is mine”.

Joke. A sad clown hides his sadness behind a painted smile. It was the only letter that didn’t make me smile, but I knew why.

I have always kept my agreement with my father. I never read letters ahead of time. I was always waiting for the next moment, the next letter. The next lesson my father will teach me. It’s amazing what a 27 year old man can teach an 85 year old man like me.

Now I’m lying in a hospital bed with tubes in my nose and throat from this damn cancer, and I’m reaching for the yellowed paper of my last unread letter. The title When Your Hour Comes is barely visible on the envelope.

I don’t want to open it. I’m afraid. I don’t want to believe that my time has come. It’s all about hope, you know? Nobody believes that she will die.

I take a deep breath and open the envelope.

“Hello son. I hope you are old now.

You know, this letter was the easiest to write and was the first one I wrote. This letter freed me from the pain of losing you. I think your mind will clear up when you’re this close to the end. It’s easier to talk about it.

In my last days I thought about my life. I had a short life, but a very happy one. I was your father and your mother’s husband. What more could I want? It gave peace to my mind. Now you do the same.

My advice to you: you should not be afraid.

P . S . Missing You».

Raphael Seeler

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Letter from father to teenage son. Letter to dad…

Hello, our readers. Do you like to read letters? Then read the most beautiful father’s parting words. A letter from a father to his son, in which he expressed his feelings and instructions. Of course, this is not the letter of William Larned that shocked the world, but it is no less sensual and powerful in meaning.

Father’s letter

Hello son! You are becoming an adult, so I want to pass on to you some of the skills and advice that my father once gave me.

To begin with, a man is not measured by age. Nothing supernatural happens when you are 16, 18, 21 or 40 years old. A man is also not measured by the presence of chest hair. Not measured by depth of voice or other physical data. A man is measured by qualities, as well as actions.

Therefore, son, always think about the needs of the people around you and who they take you for. Thinking about the needs of people, you will know how to help them and never become a scoundrel. Remember, my boy, it’s better to be proud than cursed.

Act and behave like a man, especially in difficult times. Do you see how the idea of ​​men is changing today? Never succumb to the influence of a society ready to change your idea of ​​\u200b\u200bthe male essence. For most of your life, you will struggle between what you think you are, who you want to be, and who you really are.

There will be different times and opportunities in your life, son. You will have your share of happiness, and from time to time you will face disappointment. You will be surprised many times in your life. You will be faced with having to make difficult decisions, sometimes at a time when others will ridicule or disbelieve in you.

Life will show what kind of man you have become. Life will teach its lessons at unpredictable times and in unexpected places. Remember son, anyone can be your teacher. Therefore, I urge you to always be ready to learn the lessons of life from your teachers. Don’t ignore them son. Master them, because they will give you the fullness of life. Otherwise, you will encounter problems that you cannot successfully solve.

Therefore, I want to warn you: life consists not only of victories, but also of defeats. Life is a constant struggle, where victories are followed by defeats. You will also have them in your life. Because of this, you will sometimes cry, sometimes laugh, you will be pleased, and sometimes you will be scared. You will feel invulnerable, confident in your strengths, abilities or capabilities, and sometimes you will be overcome by worries or doubts. This fight, son, will make you stronger.

Remember, you have a choice in how you build your life. You always have a choice of how to react when faced with the blows of life: drop your hands, drooping, or fight, gritting your teeth. Remember son, even doing nothing is also a choice.

Remember my son, hardly anyone is ready to suffer for the righteous, but for the good they are ready to suffer. Therefore, it is better to be kind than righteous. Try to be a good person, gentle, sensitive, but strong, courageous, responsible. Be a person of good character, honest and truthful. Avoid lying, stealing, cheating, or intentionally offending someone.

I really liked the words of my father’s instructions from the TV series Magnificent Age. Watch this short video
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Remember, son, in our family they always kept their word, they were also consistent in making decisions. Therefore, we were trusted by people who knew that you can rely on our word. This is a lesson for you my boy. Never hide in the bushes from difficulties and always repay debts, even if it is extremely difficult. Remember, if you have to make a tough decision, take it. Your decisions are your toughest critic. Please try to make the right, wise decisions. One more thing: if you do not want people to know your mistakes, scams, then it is better to avoid doing them.

Do what is right, even if others do not. Resist peer pressure. Have your own opinion and a clear conscience. Let them be your own judge or jury.

Remember your last name, your clan. They are protected from «dirt», complaints from other people. They are deserved by the ancestors and are passed on to you. Your family name and family will stay with you for the rest of your life. Give them to your son at least in the same condition as you received yourself. Keep the reputation of the family, because you yourself are not its owner. You are only a keeper for the next generation.

Respect women. It means more than opening the door for her or buying dinner on a first date. But to respect them means to really understand how equal they are to a man. Women are strong, although society is trying in every possible way to stifle this idea. All I ask of you is to see them in the same light that you see yourself — strong, intelligent and dedicated people.

My son, remember, a family is of paramount importance for a man. Therefore, becoming a husband, be determined to always protect your family. Make sure she has a good life. Always put your wife and children at the head of the table. Be a good example for them. Don’t betray your family and they won’t betray you.

Love your wife. Respect her mother. Be available to your children, never humiliate them, but educate them. Be a good communicator. Don’t be afraid to share your feelings with those you love. Son, a real husband knows the main thing — to hear and listen to those he loves.

Son, a man is required to work hard. Avoid mediocrity as well as laziness. Believe in yourself, be ready to improvise, wanting to succeed. Remember: there are always several options to complete the intended task. And a man is always able to do more than he can imagine.

Love yourself son. Don’t let others dictate how you feel. Enjoy life. Stay healthy. Be honest with yourself whether you feel good or bad. Have self respect. Respect other people. Learn to say «I’m sorry» and never expect anything in return for helping other people.

Son, learn to choose the right friends for yourself. Avoid bias towards people. Remember, a friend can be more loyal and closer than a brother. True friends will always help you become better. When choosing friends, avoid people who are arrogant, who like to humiliate others, ridicule. Who like to have their last word. These are bad friends. From such friendship, son, you will suffer. To have good friends you need to be a loyal friend yourself.

Sometimes in life you will win. Sometimes you will lose, because life today is not fair. But, your losses may be even more important in shaping you as a man than your victories. Learn from your losses.

Maintain a healthy sense of humor, especially when it comes to laughing at yourself for your mistakes. This will allow you to have more masculine virtues.

Your mother and I are proud of you. We love you and are sure that you will be able to achieve great victories by reaching great heights. What you make of your life and what you turn it into is up to you. You have the necessary tools, resources and knowledge to make life truly satisfying.

Your father.

Conclusion

All normal fathers have something to say to their son. When they cannot say in words, they write letters, wanting to give their fatherly instruction to the grown-up boy. For a son to receive a letter from his father, this is once again convinced of his father’s personal concern for his well-being.

With respect to the readers, Andronik Oleg/Anna.

And finally, the video letter from my father, which shocked the whole world.

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maybe you are already tired of answering? — No, no, son, ask who, besides your father, will explain everything to you.

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Do not be offended by him children,
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I’ll sing you softly
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Shaking you lightly
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We don’t need someone else’s uncle
it’s light for the three of us
Me and you, little sister…

“Death is always unexpected. Even the terminally ill hope they don’t die today. Maybe in a week. But definitely not now and not today. The death of my father was even more unexpected, ”- this is how the touching story of Raphael Zohler begins. He lost his father when he was a child, but his father left him advice for all occasions.

He left at the age of 27, as did several well-known musicians from the 27 Club. He was young, too young. My father was neither a musician nor a famous person. Cancer does not choose its victims. He left when I was 8 years old — and I was old enough to miss him all my life. If he had died earlier, I would have no memory of my father and I would not feel any pain, but then, in fact, I would not have a dad. And yet I remembered him, and therefore I had a father.

If he were alive, he could cheer me up with jokes. Could kiss my forehead before I fell asleep. He would make me root for the same football team that he rooted for himself, and would explain some things much better than my mother.
He never told me that he was going to die soon. Even as he lay on the hospital bed with tubes all over his body, he didn’t say a word. My father was making plans for next year even though he knew he wouldn’t be around next month. Next year we will go fishing, travel, visit places we have never been before. Next year will be amazing. This is what we dreamed about.

I think he believed that this attitude would bring good luck to me. Making plans for the future was a peculiar way of keeping hope alive. He made me smile until the very end. He knew what was about to happen, but he didn’t say anything — he didn’t want to see me cry.

One day my mother suddenly picked me up from school and we went to the hospital. The doctor delivered the sad news with all the delicacy he could muster. Mom was crying because she still had a tiny bit of hope. I was shocked. What does it mean? Wasn’t this just another disease that doctors could easily cure? I felt betrayed. I screamed in anger until I realized that my father was no longer around. And I cried too.

Something happened here. A nurse approached me with a box under her arm. This box was filled with sealed envelopes with some notes instead of an address. Then the nurse handed me a single letter from the box.
«Your father asked me to give you this box. He spent a whole week writing them and would like you to read the first letter now. Stay strong.»
The envelope had the inscription «When I’m gone.» I opened it.

Son,
If you’re reading this, then I’m dead. I’m sorry. I knew that I would die.
I didn’t want to tell you what was going to happen, I didn’t want you to cry. I decided so. I think that a person who is about to die has the right to act a little more selfishly.
I still have a lot to teach you. After all, you don’t know shit. So I wrote you these letters. Don’t open them until the right moment, okay? This is our deal.
I love you. Take care of mom. Now you are the man in the house.
I love you, dad.
P.S. I didn’t write letters for my mother. She already got my car.

His clumsy letter, which I could hardly make out, reassured me and made me smile. Here’s an interesting thing my father came up with.

This box has become the most important box in the world for me. I told my mother not to open it. The letters were mine and no one else could read them. I learned by heart all the names of the envelopes that I had yet to open. But it took time for those moments to arrive. And I forgot about letters.

Seven years after we moved to a new location, I had no idea where the box had gone. I just got out of my head where it could be and I didn’t really look for it. Until one incident happened.
Mom never remarried. I don’t know why, but I would like to believe that my father was the love of her life. At the time, she had a boyfriend who was worth nothing. I thought she was humiliating herself by dating him. He didn’t respect her. She deserved someone much better than the guy she met at the bar.

I still remember the slap she gave me after I said the word bar. I admit that I deserve it. When my skin was still burning from the slap, I remembered the letter box, or rather the specific letter, which was called «When you and your mother have the biggest fight. »

I searched my bedroom and found the box inside the suitcase on top of the wardrobe. I looked at the envelopes and realized that I forgot to open the envelope marked «When You Have Your First Kiss»
. I hated myself for it and decided to open it later. Finally I found what I was looking for.

«Now apologize to her.
I don’t know why you two fought and I don’t know who is right. But I know your mother. Just apologize and that’s the best thing.
She’s your mother, she loves you more than anything in this world.Do you know she had a natural birth because someone told her it was best for you?Have you ever seen a woman give birth?Or do you need more proof love
Sorry. She will forgive you.
I love you, dad.»

My father was not a great writer, he was a simple bank clerk. But his words had a great impact on me. These were words that carried more wisdom than all put together in the 15 years of my life at that time.
I rushed to my mother’s room and opened the door. I cried when she turned to look into my eyes. I remember walking towards her holding a letter that my father had written. She hugged me and we both stood in silence.

We made up and talked a little about him. Somehow, I felt that he was sitting next to us. Me, my mother, and a piece of my father, a piece that he left for us on a piece of paper.

It wasn’t long before I read envelope When You Lose Your Virginity.

«Congratulations, son.
Don’t worry, it will get better with time. The first time is always scary. My first time was with an ugly woman who was also a prostitute.
My biggest fear is that you will ask your mother what virginity is after you read this word.
I love you, dad.»

My father followed me through my whole life. He was with me, even though he died a long time ago. His words did what no one else could do: they gave me strength to overcome the countless difficulties in my life. He always knew how to make me smile when everything looked gloomy, helped clear my mind in moments of anger

Letter “When you get married”
got me very excited. But not as strong as the «When you become a father» letter.
Now you will understand what true love is, son. You will understand how much you love her, but true love is what you will feel for this little creature next to you. I don’t know if it’s a boy or a girl.
But… have fun. Now time will fly at the speed of light, so be there. Don’t miss the moments, they will never return. Change diapers, bathe your baby, be a role model. I think you have everything to become the same wonderful father as I was.

The most painful letter I have ever read was also the shortest letter my father ever wrote to me. I am sure that at the moment when he wrote these three words, my father suffered the same way as I did. It took a while, but in the end I had to open envelope «When your mother dies»

«She’s mine now. »

Joker! It was the only letter that didn’t bring a smile to my face.

I have always kept my promise and never read letters ahead of time. Except letter «If you find out you’re gay.»
This was one of the funniest letters.

What can I say? Glad I’m dead.
Jokes aside, but at death’s door I realized that we care too much about things that don’t really matter. Do you think this will change anything, son?
Don’t be stupid. Be happy.

I was always waiting for the next moment, the next letter, another lesson that my father would teach me. It’s amazing what a 27 year old can teach an 85 year old like me.

Now, as I lay in my hospital bed, with tubes in my nose and throat thanks to this damned cancer, I run my fingers over the faded paper of the only letter I haven’t yet opened. Sentence « When your time comes»
is barely readable on the envelope.

I don’t want to open it. I’m afraid. I don’t want to believe that my time is near. Nobody believes that one day they will die.
I take a deep breath as I open the envelope.

Hello son. I hope you are already an old man.
You know, I wrote this letter first and it was the easiest for me. This is the letter that freed me from the pain of losing you. I think the mind clears up when you’re this close to the end. It’s easier to talk about it.
The last days here I thought about my life. She was short, but very happy. I was your father and your mother’s husband. What more could I ask for? It gave me peace of mind. Now do the same for you.
My advice to you: don’t be afraid.
P.S. I miss you.

Remember the first time you let our son drive. He was sitting on your lap, holding on to the steering wheel…

Dad can do anything, but he can’t be a mom!

There was such a children’s song. The opposite is also true: mom can do even more, but it’s just not possible to be a dad
. I am, according to our son, the best mother in the world. And my father is useless. Because there are things that only a dad can give a boy.

That’s what I wanted to talk about. Good sons grow only from good fathers.
You are a good father. I know it.

Remember the first time you let our son drive. He sat on your lap, holding onto the steering wheel (no, not like that — he HOLD the steering wheel!), although he barely reached the pedals. Remember the excitement on his face? He felt like the Master of the Machine. He was LIKE A DAD — strong and brave.

You taught your son good manners and behavior in society: he does not forget to say «hello» and «thank you», he is excellent with a knife and fork; holding the door, let the women go forward; helps me carry a package from the store and gets off the tram first, giving me his hand.

You told him what a real man is. And now he knows that he must be brave and bold. And he knows that even the strongest people cry sometimes. And it’s not a shame.

You shared your favorite music with him. You have your own exclusive soundtrack, which you turn on in the car at full volume and, for sure, sing along at the top of your voice. How did I know about it? One day you forgot to put the radio on and as soon as I started the car I was deafened by Metallica. Nothing Else Matters.

You know that your son will follow your example, not your advice. Therefore, a long time ago I quit smoking, take a contrast shower and stand in the «bar» every day.

You let him win from time to time — checkers, catch-up, basketball. After all, the son needs to believe in miracles!

You even let him try on your shoes — let him dream about the time when he grows up and they will fit him!

You taught him practical diplomacy. Our son knows that it is not necessary to resort to aggressive methods and wave his fists — there are other ways to prove his case. Sometimes silence speaks more than words.

When our son becomes an adult, he will definitely find his love. And looking at how tenderly he holds his wife’s hand, you will know who taught him to love. Because it was you who showed him what true love for a woman is. (Thank God that this woman is me!). You showed him that this love will go through quarrels and misunderstandings, through difficulties and obstacles. He will love — like you.

Every good father wants to become even better, but does not always know how to do it. Therefore, as the main liaison between you and your son, I would like to ask you this.

Teach our son not to be satisfied with what is (or what is easy to get), to look for the best and not give up at the first failure. This applies to everything — to yourself, to women, to food, to work.

It will be great if you spend more time together. For example, leaving home for at least half a day on weekends. And while I calmly take care of household chores, you can go to the movies with a bucket of popcorn, ride a roller coaster, eat something not very healthy (but very tasty), or just kick the ball in the yard. You will return home tired, perhaps a little grubby, but contented, happy participants in a small «holiday of disobedience.»

I would like you to hug our son more often. Do you remember how you grabbed him in an armful, smacked his chubby cheek and threw him up, circled — when he was very small. Do not be afraid to show your feelings even now, because time flies quickly — soon he will grow up and will be embarrassed even to hold your hand.

You will have to talk to your son about sex. If you don’t know when and how to start a conversation, you can slip the book (only scroll through it yourself first so as not to come across a too advanced edition) and say: contact me if you have any questions.

Keep his secrets faithfully. If your son wants to talk to you — do not miss this chance, put aside all your affairs, turn off the TV, put your phone away and talk. Anything he wants to talk to you about. If now, while he is still small, you are not ready to listen carefully to his problems, he is unlikely to come to you at 20 with more serious questions. Share his dreams and hopes, support, because you are not just a father and son — you are friends. Just don’t remind him of this if he refuses to take you on a date when the time comes.

Tell your son that family is the only thing worth fighting for
. Tell him more often how great it is to be a father and that no one will ever love him like you — a real father’s love. When one day he becomes a father himself, you will be sure — he knows what to do.

That, perhaps, is all. No, not all. Remember: I love you both!
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Letter to my son’s father

«Dad can do anything, but he can’t be a mom!»

Author: Ageeva Irina, mother of two charming kids aged 21 and 11
Photo: Aëla Labbé

Dad can do anything , only mom can’t be !

There was such a children’s song. The opposite is also true: mom can do even more, but it’s just not possible to be a dad. I am, according to our son, the best mother in the world. And my father is useless. Because there are things that only a dad can give a boy.

That’s what I wanted to talk about. Good sons only come from good fathers. You are a good father. I know it.

Remember the first time you let our son drive. He sat on your lap, holding onto the steering wheel (no, not like that — he HOLD the steering wheel!), although he barely reached the pedals. Remember the excitement on his face? He felt like the Master of the Machine. He was LIKE A DAD — strong and brave.

You taught your son good manners and behavior in society: he does not forget to say «hello» and «thank you», he is excellent with a knife and fork; holding the door, let the women go forward; helps me carry a package from the store and gets off the tram first, giving me his hand.

You told him what a real man is. And now he knows that he must be brave and bold. And he knows that even the strongest people cry sometimes. And it’s not a shame.

You shared your favorite music with him. You have your own exclusive soundtrack, which you turn on in the car at full volume and, for sure, sing along at the top of your voice. How did I know about it? One day you forgot to put the radio on and as soon as I started the car I was deafened by Metallica. Nothing Else Matters.

You know that your son will follow your example, not your advice. Therefore, a long time ago I quit smoking, take a contrast shower and stand in the «bar» every day.

You let him win from time to time — checkers, catch-up, basketball. After all, the son needs to believe in miracles!

You even let him try on your shoes — let him dream about the time when he grows up and they will fit him!

You taught him practical diplomacy. Our son knows that it is not necessary to resort to aggressive methods and wave his fists — there are other ways to prove his case. Sometimes silence speaks more than words.

When our son becomes an adult, he will definitely find his love. And looking at how tenderly he holds his wife’s hand, you will know who taught him to love. Because it was you who showed him what true love for a woman is. (Thank God that this woman is me!). You showed him that this love will go through quarrels and misunderstandings, through difficulties and obstacles. He will love — like you.

Every good father wants to become even better, but does not always know how to do it. Therefore, as the main liaison between you and your son, I would like to ask you this.

Teach our son not to be satisfied with what is (or what is easy to get), to look for the best and not to give up at the first failure. This applies to everything — to yourself, to women, to food, to work.

It will be great if you spend more time together. For example, leaving home for at least half a day on weekends. And while I calmly take care of household chores, you can go to the movies with a bucket of popcorn, ride a roller coaster, eat something not very healthy (but very tasty), or just kick the ball in the yard. You will return home tired, perhaps a little grubby, but contented, happy participants in a small «holiday of disobedience.»

I would like you to hug our son more often. Remember how you grabbed him in an armful, smacked his chubby cheek and threw him up, circled — when he was very small. Do not be afraid to show your feelings even now, because time flies quickly — soon he will grow up and will be embarrassed to even hold your hand.

You will have to talk to your son about sex. If you don’t know when and how to start a conversation, you can slip the book (just scroll through it yourself first so as not to come across a too advanced edition) and say: contact me if you have any questions.

Keep his secrets faithfully. If your son wants to talk to you — do not miss this chance, put aside all your affairs, turn off the TV, put your phone away and talk. Anything he wants to talk to you about. If now, while he is still small, you are not ready to listen carefully to his problems, he is unlikely to come to you at 20 with more serious questions. Share his dreams and hopes, support, because you are not just a father and son — you are friends. Just don’t remind him of this if he refuses to take you on a date when the time comes.

Tell your son that family is the only thing worth fighting for. Tell him more often how great it is to be a father and that no one will ever love him like you do — a real father’s love. When one day he becomes a father himself, you will be sure — he knows what to do.

That, perhaps, is all. No, not all. Remember: I love you both!

The best message ever from a father to his son: August 21, 2015, 04:27 PM

August 21, 2015, 04:27 PM

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The Bright Side portal publishes a very touching story by Rafael Zohler.

Death is always unexpected. Even the terminally ill hope that they will not die today. Maybe in a week. But definitely not now and not today.

My father’s death was even more unexpected. He left at the age of 27, as did several well-known musicians from the «27 Club». He was young, too young. My father was neither a musician nor a famous person. No one is immune from cancer. He left when I was 8 years old — and I was already old enough to miss him all my life. If he had died earlier, I would have no memories of my father and I would not feel any pain, but then, in fact, I would not have a dad. And yet I remembered him, and therefore I had a father.

If he were alive, he could cheer me up with jokes. Could kiss my forehead before I fell asleep. He would make me root for the same football team that he himself supported, and would explain some things much better than my mother.

He never told me that he was going to die soon. Even when he lay on the hospital bed with tubes all over his body, he didn’t say a word. My father made plans for the next year, although he knew that he would not be around next month. Next year we will go fishing, travel, visit places we have never been before. Next year will be amazing. That’s what we dreamed about.

I think he believed that this attitude would bring good luck to me. Making plans for the future was a way of keeping hope alive. He made me smile until the very end. He knew what was about to happen, but didn’t say anything — he didn’t want to see my tears.

One day my mother suddenly picked me up from school and we went to the hospital. The doctor delivered the sad news with all the delicacy he could muster. Mom was crying because she still had a tiny bit of hope. I was shocked. What does it mean? Wasn’t this just another disease that doctors can easily cure? I felt betrayed. I screamed in anger until I realized that my father was no longer around. And I also cried.

Something happened here. A nurse approached me with a box under her arm. This box was filled with sealed envelopes with some notes instead of an address. Then the nurse handed me a single letter from the box.

«Your father asked me to give you this box. He spent a whole week writing them and would like you to read the first letter now. Be strong.»

The envelope had the inscription «When I am gone» . I opened it.

Son,

If you are reading this, then I am dead. I’m sorry. I knew that I would die.

I didn’t want to tell you what was going to happen, I didn’t want you to cry. I decided so. I think that a person who is about to die has the right to act a little more selfishly.

I still have a lot to teach you. In the end, you don’t know a damn thing. So I wrote you these letters. Don’t open them until the right moment, okay? This is our deal.

I love you. Take care of mom. Now you are the man in the house.

I love you, dad.

P.S. I didn’t write letters for my mother. She got my car anyway.

His clumsy letter, which I could hardly make out, reassured me and made me smile. Here’s an interesting thing my father came up with.

This box has become the most important box in the world for me. I told my mother not to open it. The letters were mine and no one else could read them. I learned by heart all the names of the envelopes that I had yet to open. But it took time for those moments to come. And I forgot about letters.

Seven years after we moved to a new location, I had no idea where the box had gone. It just flew out of my head where she could be, and I didn’t really look for her either. Until one incident happened.

Mom never remarried. I don’t know why, but I would like to believe that my father was the love of her life. At that time, she had a boyfriend who was worth nothing. I thought she was humiliating herself by dating him. He didn’t respect her. She deserved someone much better than the guy she met at the bar.

I still remember the slap she gave me after I said the word bar. I admit that I deserve it. When my skin was still burning from the slap, I remembered the box of letters, or rather the specific letter, which was called «When you and your mother have the biggest fight.»

I searched my bedroom and found the box inside the suitcase on top of the wardrobe. I looked at the envelopes and realized that I forgot to open the envelope that said «When You Have Your First Kiss». I hated myself for it and decided to open it later. Finally I found what I was looking for.

Now apologize to her.

I don’t know why you quarreled, and I don’t know who is right. But I know your mom. Just apologize and that will be the best thing.

She is your mother, she loves you more than anyone in this world. Did you know that she had a natural birth because someone told her that it would be best for you? Have you ever seen a woman giving birth? Or do you need more proof of love?

Sorry. She will forgive you.

I love you, dad.

My father was not a great writer, he was a simple bank clerk. But his words had a great impact on me. These were words that carried more wisdom than all put together in the 15 years of my life at that time.

I rushed to my mother’s room and opened the door. I cried when she turned to look me in the eyes. I remember walking towards her holding a letter that my father had written. She hugged me and we both stood in silence.

We made up and talked a little about him. Somehow I felt that he was sitting next to us. Me, my mother and a piece of my father, a piece that he left for us on a piece of paper.

It wasn’t long before I read envelope «When You Lose Your Virginity».

Congratulations son.

Don’t worry, it will get better with time. The first time is always scary. My first time was with an ugly woman who was also a prostitute.

My biggest fear is that you will ask your mother what virginity is after you read this word.

I love you, dad.

My father followed me through my whole life. He was with me, even though he died long ago. His words did what no one else could do: they gave me strength to overcome the countless difficulties in my life. He always knew how to make me smile when everything around looked gloomy, helped clear my mind in moments of anger.

Letter «When you get married» made me very excited. But not as much as letter «When you become a father» .

Now you will understand what true love is, son. You will understand how much you love her, but true love is what you will feel for this little creature next to you. I don’t know if it’s a boy or a girl.

But… have fun. Now time will fly at the speed of light, so be there. Don’t miss the moments, they will never return. Change diapers, bathe your baby, be a role model. I think you have everything to become the same wonderful father that I was.

The most painful letter I have ever read was also the shortest letter my father ever wrote to me. I am sure that at the moment when he wrote these three words, my father suffered the same way as I did. It took a while, but in the end I had to open envelope «When your mother dies» .

She is mine now.

Joker! It was the only letter that didn’t bring a smile to my face.

I have always kept my promise and never read letters ahead of time. Except letter «If you find out you’re gay» . It was one of the funniest letters.

What can I say? Glad I’m dead.

Jokes aside, but at death’s door, I realized that we care too much about things that don’t really matter. Do you think this will change anything, son?

Don’t be stupid. Be happy.

I was always waiting for the next moment, the next letter, another lesson that my father would teach me. It’s amazing what a 27 year old can teach an 85 year old like me.

Now, as I lay in my hospital bed with tubes in my nose and throat thanks to this damned cancer, I run my fingers over the faded paper of the only letter I haven’t yet opened. Sentence «When your time comes» is barely readable on the envelope.

I don’t want to open it. I’m afraid. I don’t want to believe that my time is near. Nobody believes that one day they will die.

I take a deep breath as I open the envelope.

Hello son. I hope you are already an old man.

You know, I wrote this letter first and it was the easiest for me. This is the letter that freed me from the pain of losing you. I think the mind clears up when you are so close to the end. It’s easier to talk about it.

The last days here I thought about my life. She was short, but very happy. I was your father and your mother’s husband. What more could I ask for? It gave me peace of mind. Now do the same for you.

My advice to you: don’t be afraid.

P.S. I miss you.

What was the letter-message of Nikolai Karamzin to his ten-year-old son Andrei

Two hundred years ago, a gift in noble families was also some important thing for a child. But the holiday did not end there. Reaching the next stage of growing up, the son or daughter received a letter of blessing from the father. It could contain both advice and parting words, but the main thing was the tone, the intonation of a confidential conversation, without which spiritual intimacy is impossible.

You ask: why shouldn’t a father tell his son everything verbally? Of course, it was so, but the letter made it possible to bridge the gap in time. The father turned not only to the child who was before his eyes, but also to what he would be in the distant future.

So Nikolai Mikhailovich Karamzin wrote a letter to his ten-year-old son Andrei for growth. Therefore, it talks about very serious things: about conscience, about vocation, about love . .. Karamzin believed that there would be a moment when an adult son would reread the letter, and what seemed to the boy in childhood not entirely clear would reach his heart like light distant star.

… Andrey Karamzin’s happy childhood ended in May 1826 when his father died. Andrew was twelve years old. His fate looks like a broken line. Left without a father early, he could not find his true calling for a long time. He studied at the University of Dorpat, served in the cavalry, sought his fortune abroad, fell in love, fought with the highlanders in the Caucasus, was an adjutant to the chief of gendarmes, was friends with Lermontov and Tyutchev, painted and played music.

«I love you: try to make this love a happiness for me…»

He was constant only in his kindness. Always and everywhere he remained a noble man, a worthy son of his father. In August 1845, he had to make a short speech in Simbirsk on the occasion of the opening of the monument to N.M. Karamzin.

«Gracious sirs,» said Andrey, «what words can I, the son of Karamzin, express everything that fills my soul? Genius and talent are not hereditary, but a feeling of love for the motherland, ardent, holy, is hereditarily nourished from childhood, fiery, holy — devotion to the throne and my Russian heart trembles with joy, seeing how my dear fatherland appreciates the great labors incurred by the immortal dead in favor of the Russian cause and the Russian word … «

Having married the widow of Pavel Nikolaevich Demidov, a brilliant beauty and intelligent woman, Andrei Karamzin in 1849 became the manager of the Tagil factories. In the Urals, he opened shelters, schools, libraries, and reduced his employees’ working day to eight hours. Karamzin-son left such a good memory for himself that a monument was erected to Andrei Nikolaevich in Nizhny Tagil, and the whole city collected funds for it. (The monument was dismantled after the revolution, its fragments were brought to the local museum. )

In 1853, 39-year-old Andrei Karamzin volunteered for the Crimean War. Nothing obliged a rich, busy and already middle-aged man to take such a step. Nothing obliges, except conscience.

Among those who saw Andrei off to the war was Fyodor Ivanovich Tyutchev, who later recalled: «I see, as if it were yesterday, how he, in a military overcoat, parted with us at the station, and I say goodbye to him — come back…»

16 In May 1854, a detachment of the Alexandria Hussars under the command of Colonel Andrei Karamzin set off on a reconnaissance raid. The last thing Andrei managed to say to his friend, before his detachment set out on a campaign: «Today I dreamed of my father.» Andrew took this as a good sign. He did not understand that Nikolai Mikhailovich wanted to keep him from a daring sortie.

In a letter from Nikolai Mikhailovich Karamzin to his ten-year-old son, there are the following lines: «You already have a vice, excessive vehemence, in which you can do and say a lot . .. hold on, overcome this ardor…»

the fearlessness inherent in Colonel Karamzin led his detachment to an open clash with the superior forces of the Turkish cavalry. It happened on May 31st. The hussars were surrounded and almost all died. The Turks captured Karamzin, stripped him, tore off the cross and the medallion from his chest, but the unarmed Andrei managed to snatch the saber from one of the bashi-bazouks and again entered the battle. The Turks, furious, stabbed him with lances and sabers, inflicting eighteen mortal wounds.

«Dear Andrey! You know that I love you…»

Hugs, kisses and congratulations on your ten-year-old boy. Live and grow in body and soul: in body in strength and vigor, in soul in kindness, in mind and in useful knowledge…

Dear Andrey! You surely do not want your father to be unhappy with you in his old age, and he will die of sorrow if you do not be his good son.

This is what I demand for my well-being and yours:

Start every day by praying to God for your parents, sisters, brothers and yourself, asking Him to give you the strength to fulfill your duties, that is, to be an obedient son, an affectionate brother, diligent student.

Wish good morning to your father, mother, sisters and brothers with love, not coldly, without any thoughts, but feel that you love them and really wish them well.

Sit down to study with the firm intention of being attentive and diligent, so as not to waste time, but to take advantage of every minute… Always, after finishing a lesson, ask yourself what you have learned new or what have you learned? If you didn’t learn anything, didn’t learn anything in this lesson, then it is lost: you didn’t fulfill your duty and upset your parents. Leaving the study room, you find new positions to fulfill: you are obliged to behave well, not only against parents, sisters and brothers, but also against all households: to be not rude, but friendly and meek; offend no one, but show good disposition to all. You already have a vice, excessive vehemence, in which you can do and say a lot of obscene things: restrain yourself, overcome this ardor and be silent when you would like to scold. You will see that it is possible and even easy!

Starting and ending the day with a heartfelt prayer: thank God if you had a good day; repent if you studied poorly or offended anyone … Close your eyes every night and open them every morning with a sincere desire so that your father, mother and conscience can be pleased with you.

Dear Andrey! You know that I love you: try to make this love be happiness for me, and not suffering.

October 1824

From the letters of N.M. Karamzin

November 3, 1819

I often admire my little ones. If Andrei and Alexander are alive, they will not shame my shadow in the Champs Elysees. He asked me first: «Where is God? In heaven?» He is everywhere, I answered: both in heaven and on earth. It has become, God is very wide, said my five-year-old Philosopher.

November 4, 1820

Big (Andrey. — note «RG.») is six years old: he is already talking about the Trinity and the soul, showing a really extraordinary mind in such years.